It's never too late to educate yourself. If you decide to radically change your behavior and become stylish and modern, then you need to learn the basic rules of etiquette and learn good manners.

• Harmony of soul, body and mind. Such a harmonious combination allows you to be happy, which is what most representatives of the beautiful half of humanity dream of.
• Each of them wants to love and be loved, to engage in interesting business feel respected and have a good reputation in society. But all this is not as simple as it might seem at first glance. Behind this is a lot of work and hard work on yourself.
• Becoming a real lady is not an easy task. To do this, it is not enough to dress well, to have a beautiful and well-groomed appearance and do what you love. It is necessary to have an inner charm that will allow you to attract interest in your personality.
• It often happens when outwardly beautiful girl becomes uninteresting literally after 5 minutes of dialogue with her. While not very attractive in appearance, at the same time a rather self-confident girl, she is able to attract the attention of others. She is polite, modest, knows how to properly maintain a conversation, has good manners in behavior
• Good manners cannot go unnoticed. However, in modern life it is extremely rare to meet a morally and spiritually strong personality, especially among young people. Therefore, it is never too late to engage in self-education. And about how to learn good manners for a girl, we will consider in the article

Bad manners girl

First of all, let's look at what behaviors will never make a girl a real lady. So bad manners.

• Increased curiosity in communication
• Gossip with girlfriends
• Humiliation of the personality of the interlocutor
• Sneaking in a team
• meanness
• Vulgarity and rudeness
• Complacency

It's only short list those manners that need to be literally “erased” from their character. And you need to start this process immediately.

Adult girl etiquette

A cultured person is, first of all, courtesy and tact. To cultivate such qualities in yourself, you need to learn to clearly monitor your emotions and thoughts, that is, control yourself. For example, you are walking in the park, and suddenly someone nearby rushed at full speed, and inadvertently pushed you to the side. Naturally, the first thought that comes to your mind on a subconscious level is a strong indignation. And right at this moment, you must control that your emotions do not go into action, and rude words do not “fly out” of your mouth in pursuit of the person who pushed you.

Important: You must learn to calmly and leisurely perceive everything that happens around you. This will prevent you from committing rash acts.

Now think about what kind of behavior can annoy people. This list, most likely, you will get quite impressive, so you can list them on a piece of paper. Arrogance, loud laughter, swearing, the smell of alcohol, etc. Work on not having these kinds of moments in your behavior.

Watch how cultured people behave in society, on the street, in public transport. Try to inculcate such character traits in yourself. Be humble, do not argue in situations where this issue does not concern you. Do not show that you are smarter, more beautiful and more modern than your interlocutor. Remember that politeness and modesty have always adorned a person.

Etiquette for a girl of the 21st century. The etiquette of the modern girl

Now let's talk in more detail about how a modern girl should behave in society, at work, at a party, in communication with her man, with friends, consider the etiquette of a girl's clothes and decent behavior.

Speech etiquette for a girl

Let's start with the fact that speech etiquette for a girl is not a simple game of memorized phrases. You need to learn how to properly communicate with people in order to win over the interlocutor. This does not require special knowledge. It is enough that your speech was filled with politeness to the interlocutor. When choosing a form of greeting, fill it with feelings, do not forget to show with your whole appearance that meeting a person is really pleasant for you. You can say hello in many ways: kisses, handshakes, or just a kind word. The main thing is that it should be heard by those to whom it is addressed, and not by everyone around. Don't pause when meeting.

Never be afraid to say hello first, even if there is a stranger in front of you. Remember that the first to say hello is the one who is better brought up.

Video: Features of speech etiquette

• Suppose you are invited to visit. You don't have to follow the rules that say "guests are always late." It's not cultural. Moreover, such behavior is nothing but disrespect for the owners of the house.
• By the way, a cultured girl will not allow herself to be late for a business meeting, theater, cinema, and even a meeting with her friend or work colleague.
• Upon entering the house, be sure to greet all the guests first. You should not check the rooms for cleanliness and run your eyes from one piece of furniture to another. Girls with good manners can't afford this kind of behavior.
• While visiting, try not to talk on the phone. If someone called you at this time, politely apologize to the guests and step aside. Explain to the interlocutor that you are visiting now and as soon as you are free, then by all means call him back

• Do not look at the clock often - this can show the owners that you are not interested in them, and you are in a hurry to leave.

Rules of etiquette for a girl on a date

• If a properly educated girl with good manners does not allow herself to be late for a visit, for work or for a business meeting, then with a date the situation is a little different. But this is kind of an exception to the rule.
• However, why do the rules of etiquette recommend that a girl be a little late for a meeting with a guy. It is believed that this is a kind of prevention for men.
• While he is waiting for a meeting with the girl he likes, he has the opportunity to weigh everything again, to be alone with his thoughts and intentions.
• But, you can only be late for a date. If a guy waits too long for you, then it can be interpreted as a disdain for him

• If this is your first date, and naturally the guy will shower you with a lot of compliments, then you should not tell him what efforts you make to look like that, where and for how much you bought this outfit or mobile phone etc. Remember speech etiquette for a girl and its basic rules.

Never call a guy yourself after the first date - he must show interest in you himself.

Clothes etiquette for a girl

As the saying goes: "Meet by clothes - see off by the mind." This stereotype has firmly entered our lives and has not lost its relevance at all times. A well-chosen wardrobe of a girl indicates the level of her upbringing.

Important: Clothing should always match the atmosphere of the event and its setting. A well-bred girl will never allow herself to appear at a social event with bright makeup and a short leather skirt.

• Clothes must be beautiful. This rule applies not only to the wardrobe, which is intended for going out into society, but also for home
• A properly educated girl will not allow herself to be in the house in an untidy dressing gown or nightgown, even if it is expensive.
• Home clothes should be comfortable, simple, neat and beautiful. You should always look beautiful and well-groomed in order to receive a sudden guest at any time or go outside

• Another rule is to cultivate a sense of tact and taste. Those girls who put on a lot of jewelry look defiant. There is one unwritten rule - wear no more than 13 pieces of jewelry. These include bracelets, earrings, chains, bright inserts, buttons, belts, etc.

An elegant woman is a good posture, which implies a straight back, gently lowered shoulders, a retracted stomach, straight legs at the knees, a raised chin and slightly bent elbows.

Rules of etiquette in a restaurant for a girl

Sooner or later, a moment comes in a girl's life when she is invited to dinner at a restaurant. The rules of restaurant etiquette begin right at the door of the establishment. The first person to enter the restaurant is always a man who comes up to the waiter and asks about availability. He must also pull out a chair for the girl and help her sit down.

• At the restaurant table you need to sit with a flat wall, do not lean on and do not throw your legs over your legs. Never put on make-up during dinner or talk on the phone unless you have an important call. The order is the destiny of a man. A lady can only express her wish and consult a man
• In addition to the fact that a properly educated girl knows what style of clothing to prefer and how to apply makeup correctly, in a restaurant you will also need to know how to properly attach your handbag and umbrella
• What do the rules of etiquette say in this case? If you have a clutch, then you can put it on the table or on a nearby empty chair. The same applies to small handbags. But with more voluminous accessories, you need to behave correctly - put them on public display, at least not tactfully. If possible, hang the bag on the back of a chair. Otherwise, you can put it under the table so that it does not bother you.
• Close your umbrella immediately upon entering the room, even if it is wet. You can not leave an open umbrella at the entrance with the aim that in this way it will dry out better. In each restaurant, in this case, special accessories are provided that allow you to leave umbrellas in them - use this

How to accept gifts for a girl? How should a girl behave in a relationship?

• If you have a boyfriend, treat him the way you would like him to treat you. Remember that first of all, a guy wants to see femininity, understanding and beauty in his chosen one.
• Ease and ease in behavior always attract a man, no matter what status and age he is. Let him feel stronger around you. But in giving him the palm, do not lose your own dignity.
• Learn how to say "thank you" correctly! It is so established in society that a man should please his woman with gifts. And how you accept his gift depends on how often you will receive them.
• To be honest, modern women have forgotten how to accept gifts in such a way as to inspire a man to do it as often as possible. Many of the women limit themselves to a dry “thank you”, well, or at most - a kiss on the cheek.
• But you must make sure that your man can also feel the joy of this event. He has little dry gratitude. He dreams of seeing delight in your eyes, joyful and sincere emotions.

• Express your gratitude with many nice and warm words and do not forget to note its exquisite taste even if in fact you are not particularly enthusiastic

Business etiquette at work

A code of laws called etiquette exists not only in social life, but also in the business environment. This is a kind of pass to the world of business people and the standard of communication. It is customary to judge a person by his deeds, behavior and ability to build the right relationships in the business sphere.

Therefore, compliance with the rules of business etiquette at work plays a significant role. We can talk endlessly about this, but we will try to briefly describe the most important rules etiquette:

1. Time is money. This refers to punctuality, respect for the interlocutor and his time. No person will start a relationship with those who do not know how to plan their working day, sort out urgent and important things and do not control the course of all events.

3. Dress code. Neat hairstyle, business attire and well-chosen jewelry

4. Order on the desktop - order in the head

5. Workplace for work. Not allowed to spend working time on gossip, empty talk and chatter on the phone

6. Be able to listen and hear. Business Etiquette involves hearing your opponent, not just listening to him

7. A healthy atmosphere within the team, which is based on respectful and equal relations between colleagues, goodwill and timely assistance if necessary

8. Compliance with telephone etiquette. Telephone conversations in modern society are able to establish relations between competitors, to conduct negotiations correctly and in a timely manner. Phone calls during business hours are only permitted for business purposes. Phone calls personal nature are allowed only in case of emergency

Calling etiquette rules

Phone calls have their time, just like business. A well-mannered person will not allow himself to disturb his friend with a phone call before 8 am and after 10 pm, unless this call is agreed with him in advance.

• The rules of etiquette dictate that if the mobile connection is interrupted during a conversation, then you need to call back to the one who called for the first time
• If you are on the phone with a stranger, be sure to address him with "you"
• When you call, be sure to say hello and introduce yourself. In the process of communication, use only impersonal forms. It is not ethical to address the subscriber with such words as “girl”, “young man”, “woman”
• Be sure to answer office calls within the first three rings. If you call, it is not customary to wait for a call for more than six rings. Business conversation cannot last more than 5 minutes
• In the event that you expect a longer conversation, then be sure to ask the subscriber if he has the opportunity to devote 20-30 minutes to you, for example
• If you are in a restaurant, put your mobile phone in your bag or pocket. Never put it on the table
• It is not cultural to write messages or "sit" in social network while communicating with a real interlocutor
• Never answer someone else's phone

Rules of etiquette for a girl in society

The rules of behavior in society must be observed not only by the girl, but also by all those around her. It is known that society affects the character of a person. Therefore, if you decide to learn good manners, then you cannot part with them in any society, regardless of its level.

A decent girl will not allow herself to “fall face down in an honest company”, but, on the contrary, will conquer those around her with her manners, appearance and upbringing.

• Never respond to the greeting "good afternoon" with a short word - "good
  Be discreet, polite and kind
• When leaving the premises, try to hold the door to the one who follows you.
• If the rules of etiquette in society allow a girl to be indoors in a hat and gloves, then you must take off winter mittens and a hat
• The rules of etiquette forbid everyone, without exception, to swear, speak loudly, discuss, laugh and gossip.

Etiquette rules for a girl in a company

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Rules of etiquette for girls with parents

Sooner or later in the life of every girl there comes a moment when a guy introduces her to his parents. This is always exciting for a girl and she tries her best to make the best impression of herself. But don't overdo it!

• The rules of etiquette recommend that you remain yourself, behave calmly and culturally.
• Do not show your parents your excitement, but you do not need to hide it by randomly twisting the ring on your finger, straightening your hair
• At the first meeting, you should not take the initiative of the conversation - behave modestly and correctly, sincerely answer the questions of your parents. Try not to talk about yourself unless you are asked to.
• Stretch a glass of alcohol at the table for the whole evening and do not fall for the tricks of the future father-in-law to pour alcohol
• Don't skip treats. Moreover, admire their taste
• Do not bring any animals as a gift. It is also not customary to give perfume, underwear and cosmetics until you really get acquainted with the taste of your parents.
• Don't stay up late. When leaving, be sure to invite the groom's parents to visit in return
• Simplicity and naturalness is the main rule of a modern and properly educated girl. First of all, you need to respect yourself and be yourself. Then you will not have to hide your complexes, laugh out loud in the theater or cinema, avoid communication with your loved ones.
• Simply, if something surprises you - be surprised, if it pleases you - smile! But for yourself, not for others. Then others will be able to immediately notice this sweet creature, with a bright and clean face, open, kind and well-mannered.

How to learn good manners for a girl?
The rules of social life for a girl

In conclusion, let's list 20 rules of women's etiquette.

1. Always be neat and tidy
   2. Do not wear more than 13 jewelry, including bright buttons
   3. Avoid talking about money, health, politics and religion at the table
   4. Do not go to visit without a call
   5. Do not dry the umbrella open in the office, at a party or in a restaurant
   6. Do not use plastic bags from the supermarket as a bag
   7. Don't put your bag on your lap or on your chair
   8. Handbag for ladies, not for men
   9. Do not be indoors in a hat and mittens
   10. The man always enters the elevator first, and the one who is closest to the door exits.
   11. Do not discuss people who are not present in the company
   12. Referring to "you" to people over 12 years old
   13. Before you open the door of the room, be sure to knock
   14. Don't put your mobile phone on a table in a public place
   15. Do not write SMS message while talking with a real interlocutor
   16. In a concert hall or cinema, face the seated
   17. You can’t laugh out loud and announce publicly that you are on a diet.
   18. Observe speech etiquette
   19. In a restaurant, the one who says the phrase "I invite you" pays off
   20. Be punctual and open to conversation

Rules of etiquette - how to make an unforgettable impression

T.V. Mishatkina

Ethics and etiquette

Etiquette is reason for those who do not have it Voltaire

Good manners are more important than virtue O. Wilde

The culture of communication, which determines how we feel in society, how people treat us: they love us or neglect us, is based on the observance of certain rules called etiquette. These rules have been developed by mankind for thousands of years - since the late Middle Ages. They regulate what is permissible and acceptable in a given society or in a given situation, and what is not. Of course, etiquette determines only the forms, the "technique" of communication, therefore, knowledge of the rules of etiquette in itself is not enough to be considered a cultured, educated person. Behavior in society should be based on the general principles and norms of morality, demonstrating the connection between ethics and etiquette. Every issue related to etiquette must be dealt with in the light of ethical standards. Our manners are a reflection of our ethical ideas. Politeness and attention to people, sympathy and the ability to understand another person - these high ethical qualities that underlie moral behavior are reflected in simple norms of etiquette.

What is etiquette?

There are many definitions of etiquette. One of the most common reads: etiquetteis a set of rules of conduct adopted in society.

Sometimes etiquette is defined as:

regulations behavior(behavior - from the "veda" - knowledge);

regulations courtesy(politeness - also from "know", know);

regulations propriety(decency - from the "face", "image", the person's face);

culture actions and manners (“cultural” - in contrast to “natural”, “wild”, means “man-made, organized, ordered”).

Etiquette applies to all areas of life: specific rules prescribe how to maintain hygiene, talk, dress, behave at the table, in a team, in a family, in public places, theater, outdoor, etc. Without respect for the norms of etiquette, interpersonal, cultural, business and even political relations are impossible, because it is impossible to exist without respecting each other, without imposing certain restrictions on one's behavior.

The etiquette contains general human norms of communication, preserved for thousands of years and characteristic of many peoples. Therefore, they are observed (or should be observed) by representatives not only of a particular society, but by all people. For example, simple rules of politeness, greetings, expression of gratitude are inherent in all people without exception.

Of course, various peoples made their own corrections and additions to etiquette, related to the peculiarities of their own culture. Therefore, etiquette also reflects specific national peculiarities communication: traditions, customs, rituals, rituals corresponding to the historical conditions of life different peoples. So, the celebration of holidays - New Year or Christmas, wedding ceremonies and birthdays are celebrated by different peoples in different ways, meeting their moral and aesthetic needs.

In addition, as the living conditions of people change, the growth of education and culture in society, some rules of behavior are replaced by others. What used to be considered indecent becomes generally accepted, and vice versa.

Thus, the requirements of etiquette are historical character, they are not absolute, they relative observance of them depends on the place, time and circumstances. Behavior that is unacceptable in one place and under one circumstance may be appropriate in another place and under other circumstances. The rules of etiquette are conditional, they seem to be in the nature of an unwritten agreement about what is generally accepted in people's behavior and what is not. This convention is explained by the fact that the task of etiquette is to offer people such forms - stereotypes of behavior that can facilitate communication and understanding between them. Therefore, etiquette can be considered as a special form of manifestation of moral culture, because good manners are external reflection internal human culture, his moral qualities.

True, there are exceptions. So, high inner spirituality, kindness and decency of a poorly educated simple person may not be manifested in his manners - due to ignorance of the rules of etiquette. And vice versa: the refined manners of a courteous dude and womanizer are not yet evidence of his moral culture.

In addition, all types of their communication: speech addressed to elders, peers, younger at a meeting and parting; manner of moving, eating, wearing clothes and jewelry, celebrating sad and joyful events, receiving guests - a person tries to give not only moral, but also aesthetic character. It is no coincidence that we say: "beautiful manners, beautiful behavior, beautiful gestures, postures, facial expressions." Therefore, it can be said that the aesthetic form of manifestation of the moral culture of a person accepted in society is calledetiquette.

So, etiquette is a large and important part of human culture, morality and morality, developed over many centuries by the combined efforts of people in accordance with their ideas about goodness, justice, humanity, beauty and order in their own lives.

Every cultured person should not only know and observe the basic norms of etiquette, but also understand their necessity. The ability to behave in society is very important: it facilitates the establishment of contacts, contributes to the achievement of mutual understanding, creates good, stable relationships. Consider the specific rules of human behavior in different situations.

The rules of conduct are designed to regulate our everyday life in society, help us communicate, set the necessary limits, going beyond which leads at least to ignorance and bad manners, and at most are regarded as deviant behavior. The rules governing behavior in society are called "etiquette".

What's this?

Etiquette is a set of rules for human behavior in relation to people in different life situations. There are five groups of basic rules of etiquette:

• the ability to present oneself- the rules relate to the appearance of a person: dress with taste, take care of your skin and figure, keep your posture, walk beautifully, gesticulate moderately and to the point;
• rule of speech and communication - the manner and tone of speech, the ability to correctly express their thoughts, greet, say goodbye, forgive, build a constructive conflict;
• table etiquette- accuracy at the table and during meals, the ability to properly use cutlery, set the table;
• rules of conduct in society- the ability to behave in public places (museums, theaters, libraries, hospitals, and so on);
• Business Etiquette- the ability to build relationships with colleagues, superiors, the manner of doing business politely and with respect for partners.

Anyone who is able to use the basic rules gives the impression of a well-mannered and polite person with whom it is pleasant to communicate and build relationships. Such a person is ready to meet halfway, they are happy to do favors and fulfill his requests for help.

In addition to the main groups of etiquette, there are some gender differences in the rules of conduct for men, women, and children.

Good manners for men

A well-bred man should be tastefully and appropriately dressed. He politely communicates with the girl, his speech is calm, devoid of sharpness and high tone. He is always ready to help a woman, no matter if she is familiar to him or not. For example, lifting heavy packages of groceries to a neighbor on the porch, opening the car door for a girl and giving a hand or letting her in first at the entrance is natural and easy for him. A man should be attentive to women's needs.

With the male sex, he is also polite, does not show his superiority and does not brag. Conflicts are resolved by polite dialogue and are not the first to go on the rampage. He is fair with subordinates, does not raise his voice, respects the work of other people, appreciates their time and effort. In a word, a worthy man.

Basic rules for men:

• if, inviting someone to a restaurant, a man says: “I invite you,” then this means that he is ready to pay for this person;
• walking next to a woman, a man should be on the left side of her, and only military personnel can be on the right to salute if necessary;
• you should always open the door for a woman and let her in first;
• when leaving the car, you need to open the door and give a hand to a woman;
• help the woman put on her coat and temporarily hold her purse if necessary.

Etiquette for women

All generally binding rules apply to women. A woman should be able to present herself - this applies both to appearance and to the manner of communication.. The image should be chosen with taste and to the place.

Polite dialogue, tact, modesty, a straight back and a beautiful walk are ideal modern woman. She competently renders signs of attention to men.

Frank flirting with a man is inappropriate, as is excessive obsession, since such behavior is called "frivolity."

When communicating with a man, a woman should be respectful and tactful, but at the same time know her rights. She has the right to refuse obsessive signs of attention and warn the man that he is beyond the permissible.

more by nature emotional women must skillfully hide negative emotions in society, avoid high tone, swear words and even excessive manifestation of joy.

Basic rules for women:

• you can’t be indoors in a hat and mittens, but you can wear a hat and gloves;
• bright makeup is appropriate only at parties;
• it is necessary to use perfume moderately: if a woman feels her perfume, then this means that there is too much of it;
• it is required to observe moderation in jewelry: do not wear rings over gloves and mitts - you can wear a bracelet, while the maximum number of jewelry, including decorative buttons, is 13 items.

Code of conduct for children

The first thing parents should remember is that the child imitates them.

Therefore, it is necessary to be the right example for your child in everything and carefully regulate his behavior in public places and on the playground.

Children from two and a half years old are usually happy to greet and say goodbye to everyone - such behavior should be encouraged in relation to familiar adults and children.

On the playground, their toys are always uninteresting until they interest another child. In this case, you need to offer the children an exchange of toys for a while - so the children will learn to share more calmly and ask permission to play with someone else's toy.

Any kid from 3-4 years old, and even more so his parents, should know that you can’t make noise on the bus, run in the store and scream.

As children grow older, it is worth instilling the correct manner of communication with parents, adults, and in educational institutions with teachers and educators. Appropriate system of behavior for children from 6 years old:

• you can not interrupt and intervene in the conversation of adults, be insolent and rude to elders and teachers;
• treat the elderly with courtesy and respect, help them on the street or in transport;
• behave decently in public places: do not run around the store, do not shout in the museum and theater and similar places.

But when teaching children the rules of etiquette, it is necessary to remember the safety rules: children can sometimes be too helpful, and criminals can take advantage of this.

General rules

Below are the current generally accepted rules of conduct:

• Greetings- this is a necessary sign of courtesy to a friend or person with whom you need to make acquaintance. In addition, entering the room, you must say hello first.
• Parting. “Leaving in English” is indecent in our society. Therefore, closing the door behind you, it is imperative to say goodbye.
• Gratitude- for the service rendered to the attendants, for the help of relatives, friends, to a stranger who held the elevator doors.
• Decent appearance- neat clean clothes to the place and according to the weather, as well as maintaining personal hygiene.

What not to do:

• Coming to visit without notice - it is necessary to notify in advance about your visit even to relatives and friends, because unexpected guests bring a lot of trouble.
• Read someone else's correspondence and look into someone else's smartphone. A person has the right to privacy.
• Set uncomfortable questions: ask about salary, ask about personal, unless, of course, the interlocutor himself touches on the topic of private life.
• Arguing and arguing violently. AT conflict situation a well-mannered person does not shout at the opponent, does not stoop to insults and calmly presents his arguments.
• To enter without knocking into a closed room. It is imperative to knock on the closed door both at home and at work, entering the office of a colleague or boss, thereby saving the person behind the door from an awkward situation.

Below are the rules for public places.

• It is required to maintain silence in the appropriate premises: in the library, hospital, museum, theater, cinema.
• Do not litter on the street, in the park and any other public places.
• It is forbidden to smoke and drink alcohol on street benches, and even more so near children's playgrounds.
• It is unacceptable to spit, pick one's nose, blow one's nose on the sidewalk - this is not only uncivilized, but also disgusts passers-by.
• When making your way through the crowd, you need to use the following words: “let me pass,” “let me,” “please.”

• When going to a theater, a restaurant, a political event or a corporate party, you need to choose the right outfit.
• In a cinema or theater, you need to make your way to your seats facing those who are sitting. If the seats are in the middle, then you need to go to them in advance, so as not to cause inconvenience to the extreme sitting spectators.
• During the performance you can not eat - for this there is an intermission and a buffet.
• After the performance, a man should go to the wardrobe himself and take a coat for his lady, while helping her to put it on.
• In the museum, you can’t talk loudly, you shouldn’t push, making your way to the exhibits. No need to rush - you should calmly move from one exhibit to another and not touch them with your hands. It is necessary to listen to the guide and not interrupt him, ask questions only after he asks about it.

• Dry the umbrella in any room should be closed.
• You can’t put the phone on the table at a party, restaurants, during an interview - this is a sign of disrespect, which is regarded as an unwillingness to communicate with the interlocutor.
• More bags, suitcases, briefcases can not be placed on the table in a restaurant or cafe. Bags are hung on the arm of a chair, and a briefcase or a bag is placed next to the chair on the floor. Only a small elegant handbag is allowed to be placed on the table.

Etiquette in public transport

The rules are as follows:

• When entering any public transport or subway, you must skip exiting.
• You need to go straight to the empty seats, do not linger at the door.
• Give way to the elderly, pregnant women and women with children and people with limited mobility.
• If you hurt someone or accidentally pushed, you need to apologize.

Store etiquette

• When entering the store, you first need to let people out, then let pregnant women, the elderly and people with limited mobility in first, and only then go in yourself.
• It is not allowed to enter the store with animals, a lit cigarette and ice cream.
• Thanks for the seller's service.
• Damaged goods must be returned with a polite explanation.
• The queue at the store must be respected, but women with young children, pregnant women and people with limited mobility should be let ahead.

The general rules of decency are an instrument that regulates the limits that society should not go beyond.

The subtleties of communication

The psychological component of our life is communication. In primitive society, people communicated only through gestures and sounds. Now it happens in different ways. AT modern world There are two main types of communication:

• verbal- through speech. It is the most basic way through which the entire planet communicates.
• non-verbal- with the help of gestures, facial expressions and feelings: tactile, visual, auditory, olfactory. With the help of feelings and gestures, not only people, but also animals communicate.

Communication regulates relationships at home, at work, in family life i.e. in every area of ​​life. Therefore, it will not be superfluous to know about some subtleties that will help you understand others and be understood yourself:

• Ability to listen and hear. The ability to listen helps to understand a person's feelings. It is very important for us to be heard, and therefore people who have this ability immediately inspire trust and gratitude. To learn to listen, you need to tune in to the interlocutor who wants to convey their feelings or expectations. To do this, you need to leave your thoughts for a while, listen and not interrupt him until the person speaks out and begins to expect advice from the listener.
• The ability to express negative feelings is essential in family life. It is important to express feelings correctly and not offend a partner, it is important to talk about accumulated grievances in time, because he may not even guess what is happening in his heart loving person, because no one has yet learned to read other people's thoughts.

It is important to do this without reproach and shouting, and you need to remember that resentment comes to an act, and not to a person. And it should also be conveyed that such an act offended, and ask not to do this again - an emotionally mature person will understand and will never do this again.

• Ability to express wishes and requests. If a person wants his desires to be fulfilled, you need to do without hints and ask directly, politely and in an understandable form. Thank you in advance by using the word “please” several times, as children do, because this little trick often works.
• The ability to communicate with a negatively minded person. The impact of a negatively minded person can lead to discouragement and even depression, deprive confidence and lower self-esteem.

That is why you should avoid such a “comrade”, but if you can’t get away from communication, for example, with your boss, then you should adhere to the following recommendations:

• It is necessary to abstract and not take personally the insults that are inflicted on them.
• Remain calm, prove your case confidently and with restraint, fending off the facts. Usually such people crave scandal, the same reaction to their anger and anger, but cold restraint can confuse them.

A person is negatively affected not only by such brawlers, but also by another category of people who constantly complain - they suck out all positive emotions in the same way. You can get tired of talking to them. the best way avoiding communication with such people will become, or you can try to distract them with interesting news or a topic. But do not tell them about your successes, as this will give new wave complaints and envy.

Etiquette at a party and at the table

Knowing the culture of behavior at a party and at the table will help a person not to get into trouble and not be considered ignorant. The following points of etiquette are given for those who like not only to host guests, but also often visit themselves.

• the owner of the house meets the guests on the threshold and helps to undress, then the hostess escorts the newcomers to the table and introduces the guests present;
• guests should be entertained with a conversation, but not to impose topics for communication, and viewing home photos and videos only at the request of all those present;
• it is necessary to ensure that all guests have the necessary cutlery at the table.

• don't be late;
• a cultured and polite guest does not come empty-handed - flowers, a bottle of wine or sweets will be an appropriate gift for the hostess of the house;
• if this is a small dinner or lunch, then it is imperative to praise the culinary abilities of the hostess; this is inappropriate at large receptions;
• bad tone - to sit silently and not communicate with the rest of the guests, you need to keep the conversation going;
• you can’t leave without saying goodbye, you should thank the hosts for the evening and politely say goodbye to the rest of the guests.

• Women sit down at the table first, men help them in this by pulling a chair.
• Elbows are not put on the table - only the hands are allowed to be put, besides, the elbows should be pressed while eating.
• You need to eat slowly, chewing food thoroughly. It is not allowed to sip or smack your lips.
• The meat should be cut into small pieces, while holding the knife in right hand, and the fork in the left, it is necessary to eat from the fork. Eating with a knife is unacceptable.
• In between meals, the fork and knife are not left on the tablecloth, but placed crosswise on the plate. Between the change of dishes, the fork and knife are also left on an empty plate, but already parallel to each other, while the knife is placed to the right of the fork.

• Before drinking from a glass, it is necessary to blot your mouth with a napkin so as not to leave greasy stains on it.
• In the event that all the dishes are already on the table, you need to take them only with special devices reserved for each individual dish, and in no case with your own spoon.
• It is unacceptable to use a toothpick at the table.
• You can not talk with a full mouth, and also leave the table without chewing food to the end.
• If an attack of sneezing or coughing begins, then you need to use a tissue.
• You should not force a neighbor on the table to try this or that dish - everyone has their own taste preferences.
• At the table, you should have an easy and pleasant conversation.

Rules for meeting parents

In an effort to make a good impression on the parents of the second half, people make stupid mistakes. Therefore, when visiting the parents of your loved one, you need to follow the following recommendations:

• Do not come empty-handed, but do not give halves of alcoholic drinks to your father at the first meeting. It is better to bring flowers to mom or a cake to the table.
• You should not start a conversation first - it is better to wait until you are contacted.
• It is necessary to behave modestly, not to flatter or praise the interior of the house.
• You should not refuse treats, it is worth remembering that the future mother-in-law or mother-in-law cooked for you - you need to try to eat a little of everything and praise the hostess.

• No need to get involved in alcohol - it is better to try to stretch one glass of wine longer.
• Girls should not smoke on their first visit to their parents.
• It is necessary to take care of a decent appearance. Guys should wear trousers and a shirt or jeans and a shirt, never shorts. A girl should avoid short shorts, skirts and dresses with a deep neckline and cutouts.
• You should politely answer questions from parents, do not tell jokes and avoid silly jokes.
• When leaving, be sure to call your parents to visit you.

The ability to dress

A pleasant and neat appearance, personal hygiene are the natural duties of any person. No one will be pleased to communicate with a person who smells bad. Simple things like taking a shower every day, brushing your teeth, and taking care of your skin should be done.

It is important to correctly choose your wardrobe, which should contain things for all occasions.

At the same time, it is necessary to take into account the parameters of the figure so that the thing sits well and does not seem small, or, conversely, large.

When choosing the color of a thing, you need to rely on the color of the skin, face and eyes. Each person has his own color type:

• Winter- the skin can be both almost white and swarthy, hair - black or dark.

• Spring– blond hair and eyes, thin skin, pink lips.

• Summer- light blond, ashy shade of hair. Gray, gray-blue, green, light brown eyes. Grayish-beige and slightly pink skin tone, pale pink lips.

• Autumn- golden skin, warm shades of eyes (brown, golden, dark brown), hair from golden to red shades.

For color types, winter and summer are well suited for things of cold shades, for spring and autumn - warm, pastel.

The wardrobe itself is divided into the following categories:

• Everyday. Jeans, T-shirts, shirts, various pullovers and sweatshirts will be appropriate here. Women can include simple cut dresses and skirts in it, in summer - sundresses and shorts. Such clothes are convenient for meeting with friends, going shopping, walking in the park or going with children to the circus or museum.

Modern rules of etiquette practically do not differ from the rules of etiquette of the past centuries. Some adjustments have made the pace and way of modern life.

From general rules it is possible to single out the ten most relevant and necessary for compliance with a decent person.

First rule of etiquette: courtesy

As the first rule, you can single out a polite attitude towards people around you. Acquaintances, the closest relatives and friends or complete strangers. And it does not matter where exactly the person is: in the store, public transport, on the street, at work, at home. Always and everywhere you need to be able to politely address others.

The second rule of etiquette: greeting

The second rule says that the person entering the room must greet first. Whoever it is: a boss, an academician, a president, a simple passer-by, a child. Words of greeting should sound exactly from the incoming.

It should be noted that if a companion greets a stranger, the couple should also say the words of greeting.

The third rule of etiquette: gratitude

People often forget to say words of gratitude to their relatives, relatives and friends. Taking everything that happens for granted. After all, their care and love is not forced, but from a pure heart. Third rule modern etiquette is the word thank you.

The fourth rule of etiquette: decent behavior in public places

You shouldn't laugh too loudly in public places. Screaming and judging other people while pointing your finger.

Fifth rule of etiquette: for drivers

Very often, drivers forget about the rules of decent behavior on the road. You can not rush through puddles and mud, splashing pedestrians. Please slow down.

The sixth rule of etiquette: cleanliness and fashion

Being in public places, and even at home, a person should monitor personal hygiene. Dress in clean, neat clothes. Put on clean shoes. And don't blindly follow fashion. It is better to dress not only fashionably, but beautifully and neatly.

Seventh rule of etiquette: unexpected guests

You can't visit without an invitation. Be sure to give advance notice of your visit.

The eighth rule of etiquette: a smartphone and other people's SMS

When visiting, at a meeting, in a cafe or restaurant, in no case should you keep your smartphone on the table. This is a manifestation of complete disrespect for the interlocutor. And that means that virtual communication is more important than live.

Rummaging through someone else's phone or pockets in order to read SMS or simple correspondence is extremely impolite and ugly towards a person. This rule applies to both parents in relation to children and spouses.

The ninth rule of etiquette: response to an insult

Now everyone has a lot of problems and worries. People are trying to throw all their anger and hatred on others. Having met with rudeness and insult, you just need to smile and move away, leaving the offender with all his anger. Do not stoop to raising your voice and insulting in response.

Tenth rule of etiquette: the habit of knocking on a closed door

Parents, as soon as the baby begins to live in a separate room, need to develop the habit of knocking before entering the nursery. Then the children will knock on the door of their parents' bedroom.

This is not the whole list of rules of modern etiquette, but adhering to at least these ten, a person can win universal respect. And with dignity to be called a cultured and educated member of society.

Etiquette - a set of rules good manners. There are a lot of them. But those who make a career, want to succeed, and who have to deal with elites, need to study them especially carefully.

Fundamentals of etiquette

Etiquette helps people behave correctly in any situation and society, without causing other people any inconvenience. Refined manners, correct speech, stylish image - all this plays an important role.

There are several types of etiquette:

• the ability to present oneself: a properly selected wardrobe, well-groomed appearance, elegant gestures, posture, posture;
• speech form: manners and culture of speech and communication;
• table etiquette: table manners, knowledge of serving rules, the ability to eat;
• behavior in any public place;
• business etiquette: negotiations and relationships with superiors and colleagues.

Good manners for women

First of all, a girl or woman should look good. She should have a neat and well-groomed appearance, clean clothes and shoes, a properly selected bag and accessories.

Of the basic rules, you need to highlight the following:

• Spirits must be used wisely. A strong smell of deodorant or even elite perfume is considered bad manners.
• In choosing jewelry and accessories, it is better to show moderation. A large amount of jewelry or jewelry looks too catchy.
• You can preen only at home or in a specially designated room for this, but in no case in public places. In society, you can only quickly look at your reflection in a small mirror and tint your lips.
• A lap bag is not the best the best choice. So they sit at the station. It is better to put a purse or a small handbag on the table.

A woman should always behave like a real lady, avoiding offensive remarks, inappropriate flirting and other liberties.

List of etiquette rules for men

A man should also look elegant, be neatly combed and adhere to the following rules:

• Skip the companion forward when entering the room.
• Don't put your elbows on the table.
• Sitting down at a table, first move the chair to the lady, and then to yourself.
• Do not leave your companion alone.
• Do not smoke in front of a girl without her permission.
• In the room, in the presence of a girl, take off your hat.
• When exiting the bus or car, give the lady a hand.

A gentleman must not carry a women's bag, and he can only bring women's outerwear to the dressing room. On the street, a man should walk to the left of his companion.