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Cinderella In a certain kingdom, in a certain state, there lived and there was a forester - a petty, eternally drunk, cowardly bastard. He had a daughter, Cinderella. He once took and married a very vicious aunt who had two vicious daughters. They began to smear his drunkard, and at the same time

Little is known about those times. The times of the Franks are the time of fairy tales, legends. But every fairy tale or legend at its core always has a real story. After all, how is a fairy tale created? At first there was some kind of event, about which then rumors spread throughout the kingdom, gossip, on the basis of which the people composed fairy tales and legends. Yes, by and large, all history textbooks, both in the past and in the present, are a collection of fairy tales and stories that people have put together throughout the history of mankind.

Over time, quite real stories acquired new fantastic details, some facts were lost, others were distorted, the only thing that remained unchanged was the main plot of the story and its moral.

The story of Bertrada of Laon has served as the basis for many folklore tales. A very fascinating story came out of the story of the marriage of the future king of the Franks Pepin to the young daughter of Count Laon - Charibert I. It is believed that her entire legendary biography is completely fictional and has a folklore story about a slandered and substituted bride as a source. But despite this, Bertrada is real herself and has a very real father, husband and sons: Charlemagne and Carloman.

Bertrada was the sole heiress of Count Charibert de Laon, who probably belonged to the Hugobertid family. It is not known whether he had any other children in the past, but it is believed that at the time of the engagement of the young Bertrada, she did not have any living brothers and sisters. Bertrada's mother, presumably Gisela of Aquitaine, died when she was still a child, and her grandmother, her father's mother, Bertrada of Prüm, the founder of the monastery in Prüm, in whose honor the girl was named, was engaged in raising the girl, a very respected woman, both inside the county and and beyond.

In 743, the young Bertrada, 14 years old, was engaged to Pepin, who at that time was in his 20th year. Pepin III the Short (714 - 768) - majord of the Franks in 741-751, and then the king of the Franks from 751. Younger son Charles Martell and Rotrud. The first king of the Carolingian dynasty.

Young people did not know each other and never saw each other, however, at that time such marriages were in the order of things, because all segments of the population clearly understood that marriage was a kind of deal between families, designed to improve the material and social situation of children, and not at all to satisfy the pleasures of love. Therefore, marriages were often concluded in such a way that the spouses first met only in the marital bed.

So, Bertrada goes to the groom with a small retinue, in which, according to one version, there is a certain close relative, according to another, the bride's nanny, along with her daughter, who is the same age as Bertrada, and they are a bit similar. What happens next is shrouded in mystery. But the bride did not reach the place of her wedding. Perhaps it was a conspiracy of relatives, perhaps an adventure of people who want to raise their social status, or maybe all together, but the fact remains that the servants were either bribed or intimidated ... It is assumed that Charibert's heiress was to be killed, so that the fact of substitution is not disclosed. But something went wrong. Perhaps someone saved Bertrada from death, or maybe the girl turned out to be smarter and smarter than her "fellow travelers", she managed to understand in time that a conspiracy was being prepared and escape ... The Pretender arrives at the place and gets married.

According to legend, the new mistress turned out to be arrogant and evil. The people did not like the impostor, and Pepin himself was cold to his young wife, but she nevertheless gave birth to children. Feelings feelings, and the heir to be obliged. But Pepin still liked to spend time apart from his wife, for example, hunting.

And then one day, after a long hunt, he decided to stop at the house of an old forester on the outskirts of the village to rest, where he liked a pretty maid who served food and drinks. And without thinking twice, Pepin asks the forester for permission to spend the night with her on the cart. By the way, many historians consider this episode of the legend to be real, which was described in a document of the 11th century. For those uninitiated in the etiquette of that time, I will explain that it was useless to ask the consent of the peasant women to the lord, but the forester had to be respected according to the rules of hospitality, at least with a formal question. Although it is clear that the forester could hardly refuse the master.

Either Pepin won over the girl, or something else, but she tells him her story that she is actually Bertrada, the daughter of Count Charibert, who miraculously escaped death at the hands of traitors. And that she is hiding here because she fears for her life.

One can imagine Pepin's feelings. He literally immediately arranges a confrontation with her grandmother, which, fortunately for the girl, turned out to be alive, as well as with all possible witnesses. And although 8 years have passed since the substitution, all witnesses say that the current mistress is definitely not the daughter of Count Heribert. And the grandmother recognizes her granddaughter in the forester's maid. But how to confirm that the forester's maid is definitely Bertrada? There were no photographs then, and an elderly woman may be mistaken. Indeed, it is difficult to remember the face of a person whom you have not seen for 8 years, and besides, Bertrada, when she left her father's house, was only 14 ...

But! Oh, happiness for the girl that she was a clubfoot due to hypertrophied flat feet, in which the feet were deformed and she had to wear specially sewn shoes for her. Leather shoes always take the shape of the foot that wore them ... Here the story of the shoe is quite logical, unlike a fairy tale.

Naturally, the shoes do not fit the impostor, but Bertrada is just right, looking ahead, I will say that she went down in history as Bertha Big-footed. The deception was revealed, justice triumphed, all the guilty were hanged, burned and quartered, but to be honest, I did not find reliable information about what was actually done with the impostor, whose name was either Leutburg or Leutberg and her children, in whose number historians disagree and believe that there were five of them.

The marriage with the impostor is declared invalid, and Pepin marries the real Bertrada, with whom he lived until his death. Later there will be a lot of confusion with historians finding out how many women King Pepin III was married to: one or two.

The legend also says that on that night the next great king of the Franks, Charlemagne, was conceived on a cart.

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3. Stepmother. She has a "loser" script. She also acts out "Oh, what is she saying!" with Cinderella's father, forcing him to marry himself. Immediately after the wedding, she discovers her true evil self. She lives only for her daughters, hoping that her stinginess will turn into royal gain for them. But her hopes do not come true.

4. sisters. Their anti-scripts are based on a mother's admonition: "Think of yourself, and let the simpleton pay." However, the outcome is predetermined by the prescription: "Nothing will come of it." Since their mother follows the same scenario prescription, it can be assumed that it was also received from her parents. In their rude game, they first mock Cinderella, then ask and receive her forgiveness.

5. Fairy. This is probably the most interesting character. What are her motives for dressing up Cinderella for the ball? Probably, it would be possible only to caress and console her, and not send her to the palace shining with lights? The situation was such that the stepmother and her daughters left for the ball, and only Cinderella and her father remained in the house. Why did the fairy need to get rid of Cinderella so badly? What did the fairy and the girl's father do, left alone for the whole evening? Having ordered Cinderella not to stay at the ball after midnight, the fairy could be sure that, on the one hand, Cinderella would not return before this time, and on the other, she would return to the house first. This gave a guarantee that neither her stepmother nor her sisters would find her with Cinderella's father, for Cinderella's return is a signal that it is time to disappear. It can be considered that such a look is cynical, but it is very likely that all this was invented to give the father and fairy an opportunity to be alone.

6. Prince. He, of course, is a Muddler and after marriage, of course, he will receive his own. He twice let the girl disappear without leaving any information about himself. He failed to catch up with her when she ran away in one shoe. Instead of finding her himself, he sent a friend to do the job. Finally, he married a girl from a very dubious family and it is not known how brought up, and in less than a week after they met. At first glance, it may seem that he won, but the circumstances indicate that he most likely has a "loser" scenario.

7. King. He has a trained eye for girls and an "off-leash" tongue. In addition, he does not know how to warn his impulsive son.

8. courtier, orGentleman. This is the clearest of all the characters in the tale. On the one hand, he was not sentimental, on the other hand, he did not show arrogance and did not laugh at Cinderella, like her sisters, but did his job with the consciousness of a duty to be performed. He did not run away with Cinderella himself, as another would have done in his place, but delivered her to the prince safe and sound. He is an honest, businesslike and principled person.

9. Two lords. Only fools can afford to marry two dubious girls whom they met only on their wedding day.

The most interesting thing is that all the characters in the fairy tale have matches in real life. Let's tell, for example, the story of Cinderella from real life.

Emma's parents divorced when she was little. The girl stayed with her mother. Soon the father remarried. The two daughters of his new wife were jealous of their stepfather when Emma came to visit them, and constantly said that he gave her too much money. A few years later, Emma's mother got married, the girl had to move in with her father, because her mother and stepfather were more interested in drinking than in their daughter. In the new house, Emma did not feel happier, because her stepmother clearly showed her dislike, and her father could not stand up for her. She got everything last, her sisters teased her. She was a shy teenager, the boys did not pay attention to her. The sisters also had many companies in which Emma was never invited.

But Emma had one advantage. She knew what others did not know. The father had a mistress, a divorced woman named Linda, who wore expensive jewelry. Secretly from the rest, Emma and Linda became friends and often had long conversations about their father. Linda gave Emma a lot of advice on a variety of things and was actually a good fairy for her. She was especially worried that Emma lived so alone.

One morning Linda said: “Your stepmother has left, your sisters have gone on a date, and why are you sitting alone? What is so good about it? Take my car, put on my best dress and go to the dance. Maybe you will meet there good guy. And exactly at six o'clock come to me, we will have lunch. Emma decided that her father and Linda wanted to be alone, so she agreed to Linda's proposal.

At the dance, Emma met a handsome guy named Roland. They started dating. However, Roland's friend, who did not part with the guitar, showed more attention to it. Soon she began to visit this Prince more often, who seemed to be a very poor man. Emma did not want the Prince to appear at her house, as she was afraid that her parents would not approve of his free manners and poor clothes. Therefore, Roland came for her. At this time, his girlfriend was waiting for them around the corner, then the Prince joined in, and the four of them had fun. Her father, stepmother and sisters believed that she was dating Roland. This greatly amused Emma.

In fact, the Prince was not poor. He came from a wealthy family, received a good education, but wanted to stand on his own two feet and become an artist. Gradually, he achieved this and even gained fame. Emma and he decide to tell their parents about their relationship before they find out the truth from the outside. For Emma's sisters, this was a complete surprise. Previously, they were thrilled, listening to the recordings of the Prince's performances on the radio, and now they were burning with jealousy when they learned that their "poor Cinderella" was marrying him. But Emma did not rebuke them for their past mistreatment of her, gave them free tickets to her Prince's concerts, and even introduced them to some of his friends.

Knowing how to behave real people, it is not difficult to imagine what happened to Cinderella after the wedding. She discovered that being a Princess is no fun at all. She tried again to play with the Prince in “Come on, catch up”, but this did not amuse her either. I tried to tease the sisters when they made visits, but it turned out that in the new situation they became unresponsive, like sheep. It wasn't interesting. The King Father sometimes looked at her strangely. But he wasn't as young as he wanted to appear, so she forbade herself to think about him. The Queen Mother was nice to her, but she carried herself, as it should be, with royal dignity. As for the other Courtiers, Cinderella should have behaved with dignity towards them. At the right time, Emma had a son, whom everyone was waiting for. In this regard, there was a lot of noise and celebrations. But they had no more children. The little Duke grew up, grandmothers and nannies took care of him, and Cinderella was bored, as before. It was especially hard for her during the day, when her husband left for work, and in the evening, when he, in the company of the Gentlemen of the Court, wasted money at the card table.

Soon she made a surprising discovery: the most interesting people for her were the dishwashers and maids employed in the kitchen. At first she kept it a secret, trying to find an excuse to spend more time in the kitchen. But then, unable to resist, she began to give the maids good advice, testifying to the depth of her knowledge in this area. Traveling in a carriage through a small "kingdom", sometimes with her son, and sometimes alone, crossing the quarters of the poor, bypassing the squalid village huts, she discovered what she knew in her heart for a long time: in the "kingdom" thousands of women were dishwashers. She stopped to talk about their work.

It soon became a habit for her to visit the poorest houses, where women's work was especially difficult. She liked to put on an old dress, sit with poor women, talk to them and help them. The rumor about her quirks went around the "kingdom". The prince was angry, but she knew what she needed, and behaved as before. One day she was accompanied by one of the Ladies of the Court. Over time, other ladies became interested in these walks. Soon it became fashionable for noble ladies to put on an old dress in the morning and go to the city to help poor women in their menial work, and at the same time listen to all sorts of interesting stories.