Quotes friendship if there is a benefit. Aphorisms and quotes about friendship

• The eyes of friendship are rarely wrong. (Voltaire)
• Trust is the first condition of friendship. (Jean de La Bruyère)
• Friendship is like a business, bad investments cost a lot.
• Friendship is love without wings.
• Friendship is possible only between good people. (Cicero)

The best quotes about friendship

• There are no debtors or benefactors in friendship. (Romain Rolland)
• In friendship there are no other calculations and considerations, except for itself. (Michel de Montaigne)
• In true friendship there is a charm that is incomprehensible to ordinary people. (Jean de La Bruyère)
• - In the world there is nothing better and more pleasant than friendship; to exclude friendship from life is the same as to deprive the world sunlight. (Cicero)
• The greatest feat of friendship is not to show a friend our shortcomings, but to open his eyes to his own. (Francois La Rochefoucauld)
• Unity creates friendship. (Democritus)
• Most women are so indifferent to friendship because it seems to them insipid in comparison with love. (Francois La Rochefoucauld)
• Sincerity of relations, truth in communication - that's friendship. (A. Suvorov)
• True friendship must be frank and free from pretense and assent. (Cicero)
• As rare as true love is, real friendship occurs even less frequently.
• Friendship is content with the possible, without demanding what is due. (Aristotle)
• Friendship is not only invaluable, but also beautiful; we praise the one who loves his friends, and having many friends seems to be something wonderful, and some even think that being a good person and a friend is one and the same. (Aristotle)
• Friendship is not a service, no thanks for it. (G. Derzhavin)
• Friendship is known in joy, and love in trouble.
• Friends are a family that we choose ourselves.
• Affection can do without reciprocity, but friendship never. (Jean-Jacques Rousseau)
• Laughter is a good start to a friendship, and laughter is a good way to end it.
• Close friendship happens among people who are similar to each other. (Plato)
• What is alive, who did not know the friendship of the saint? It is like an empty pearl. (Alisher Navoi)
• To live in friendship with those with whom you live constantly, you must behave with them as if you see each other only once every three months.
• When friendship begins to weaken and cool, she always resorts to increased politeness. (W. Shakespeare)
• Meaningful Friendship Quotes- Love and friendship are mutual echoes: they give as much as they take. (A. Herzen)
• There is no more desolate desert than life without friends; friendship multiplies blessings and alleviates troubles; consolation of the soul, it is the only cure for a hostile fate. (Baltasar Gracian)
• Friendship does not need a slave or a master. Friendship loves equality. (I. Goncharov)
• No friendship is possible without mutual respect. (A. Makarenko)

Best friend- this is a person who will tell you in your eyes everything that he does not like about you - and will tell everyone that you are the most wonderful person in the world.
- Omar Khayyam

Not the one of yours friend who eats and drinks at the table with you,
and who in any misfortune will come to the rescue.
Whoever gives a firm hand will relieve anxiety.
And he won’t even pretend that he helped you ... "

The task of life not in being on the side of the majority, but in live according to your inner the law you recognize.
- Marcus Aurelius

When you throw dirt at a person, remember that it may not reach him, but it will remain on your hands! - Author unknown

It seems to me that life is too short, and you should not spend it on cherishing enmity in your soul or remembering grievances. - Charlotte Bronte

Any sin that we see in our neighbor is in ourselves, because if it were not in us, then we would not see it in others either.
- Archimandrite Tikhon Shevkunov

You seem to know everything about yourself. So no, there are people who know more about you.

The greatest hatred arises for those who managed to touch the heart, and then spat into the soul.
- Erich Maria Remarque

Envious people often condemn what they do not know how and criticize those who they can never reach the level of.
- Friedrich Nietzsche

Better to be the enemy of a good man than friend bad.
- Japanese proverb

Nowadays, people can come up with a whole speech to justify themselves. But they cannot say a simple phrase: "I'm sorry, I was wrong."

I don't like being alone. I just don’t make unnecessary acquaintances so as not to be disappointed in people once again.
- Haruki Murakami

Don't pretend to be who you are not, don't refuse to be who you are.
- Nisargadatta Maharaj

Do not harm another that could be the cause of your suffering.
- Shakyamuni Buddha

Pretense of kindness repels more than outright malice.
- L. Tolstoy

If you are criticized, then you are doing everything right. Because people attack anyone with brains.
- Bruce Lee

Everyone sees this world through the prism of their own perception of themselves..
- Nisargadatta Maharaj

My best friend is the one who brings out the best in me.
- Henry Ford

"Not the strong one who offended the weak, but the one who protected and supported him."

In difficult times, a person shows his true face.
- Bernard Show

In our precarious world, there is nothing more difficult and fragile than trust.
- Haruki Murakami

Cruelty is a character trait of kind people, it occurs when they start to wipe their feet on your kindness.

Defiant behavior towards you is not a personal insult to you, it is a measure of a person's suffering. This is how he shows you how much he hurts and how much compassion he needs.
- Tadeusz Golas

Nothing on earth is perfect, and be stricter with yourself and more lenient with others
- Archimandrite John (Krestyankin)

Never talk about yourself either good or bad. In the first case, they will not believe you, and in the second, they will embellish.
- Confucius

Instead of wiping tears from your face, wipe from your life the people who made you cry.

Each person is a whole world that is not like any other world. Is it possible to compare the moon and the sun? Like this, how can one say that one is good and the other is bad? Each is beautiful in its own way.

Man sees all people as he is. And even more so, if he loves these people, he becomes one with them. To the extent that a person is hurt, his soul leaves the images dear to the heart, and become strangers.
- Sultan Suleyman

Sometimes, those whom we managed to forgive, we no longer want to hug ...

A thinking atheist who lives according to his conscience does not himself understand how close he is to God. Because he does good without expecting a reward. Unlike believing hypocrites.
- Hans Christian Andersen

Everything you see in me is not mine, it is yours. Mine is what I see in you.
- Unknown author

There is nothing worse than losing someone you thought was a friend.
- Robert Louis Stevenson

The truth should be presented as a coat is served, and not thrown in the face like a wet towel.
- Mark Twain

The kindness expressed to us by any person binds us to him.
- Rousseau Jean Jacques

Do not do anything shameful either in the presence of others or in secret. Your first law should be respect for yourself.
- Pythagoras

The greatest offense that can be done to an honest person is to suspect him of being dishonest.
- William Shakespeare

Stupidity tends to see other people's vices, and forget about their own.
- Cicero

What people say about you does not characterize you at all, but it characterizes them perfectly.

"From a jug to a cup, you can only pour what was in it." - Eastern proverb. So it is with people... You sometimes expect some actions from a person in vain, but he is simply filled with the wrong content to justify your expectations...

Honestly, I don't need someone who sees only the good in me, I need someone who sees the bad in me, but at the same time, still wants to be with me.
- Marilyn Monroe

How much can you say about what a person should be?! It's time to become one!
- Aurelius Mark Antoninus

Weird! A person is indignant at the evil that comes from outside, from others - that which he cannot eliminate, and does not fight his own evil, although this is in his power.
- Aurelius Mark Antoninus

A perfect person seeks everything in himself, an insignificant person - in others.
- Confucius

Not talking to a person who is worthy of talking means losing a person. And talking to a person who is not worthy of a conversation means losing words. The wise lose neither people nor words.
- Confucius

It is most difficult to build relationships correctly with women and low people. If you bring them closer to you, they will become cheeky; if you move them away from you, they will hate you.
- Confucius

You are not mistaken in thinking that a person is good. He's the one doing the wrong thing.

And no connections will help you make your foot small, your soul big, and your heart fair.
- "Cinderella"

What you have not seen with your own eyes, do not invent with your own lips.

Do not repay evil with evil, otherwise there will be no end to evil. In response to an insult, kiss your enemy, and he will become much more painful.
- Buddha

I'm not upset that you lied to me, I'm upset that I can't trust you now.
- Friedrich Nietzsche

"No matter how other people behave, your job is to put your own heart in order"

No one is worthy of your tears. And those who deserve them will never make you cry.
- Gabriel Garcia Marquez

The worst way to be sad about someone is to be with them and realize that they will never be yours.
- Gabriel Garcia Marquez

In this world you are just a person, but for someone you are the whole world!
- Gabriel Garcia Marquez

Ask the Lord for wisdom and strength to speak about how you feel. Show your friends how important they are to you. If you don't say it today, tomorrow will be the same as yesterday. And if you never do it, nothing will matter. Realize your dreams. This moment has come.
- Gabriel Garcia Marquez

A minute of reconciliation is more valuable than a lifetime lived in friendship.
- Gabriel Garcia Marquez

"A true friend is someone who will hold your hand and feel your heart."

"Not that friend of yours who eats and drinks at the table with you,
and who in any misfortune will come to the rescue.
Whoever gives a firm hand will relieve anxiety.
And he won’t even pretend that he helped you ... "

A best friend is a person who will tell you in your face everything that he doesn’t like about you - and will tell everyone that you are the most wonderful person in the world.
- Omar Khayyam

Surround yourself only with people who will pull you higher. It's just that life is already full of those who want to drag you down.
- George Clooney

The one who points out your faults is not always your enemy; the one who talks about your virtues is not always your friend.
- Chinese proverb

Beware of those who want to impute guilt to you, for they crave power over you.
- Confucius

A true friend is with you when you're wrong. When you are right, everyone will be with you.
- Mark Twain

You can not expect from a person what is unusual for him. You don't squeeze a lemon to get tomato juice.

A noble person makes demands on himself, a low person makes demands on others.
- Confucius

A diamond that has fallen into the mud still remains a diamond, and dust that has risen to the skies remains dust.

If you hate at least one person, in his image you hate Christ Himself and are far from the Kingdom of Heaven.
- prep. Gabriel

The treatment of other people is a mirror in which each shows his own image.

Above all teachings and rules, how to live correctly,
I preferred to affirm two foundations of dignity:
It is better to eat nothing at all than to eat anything;
Better to be alone than to be friends with just anyone.
- (Omar Khayyam / MEANING OF LIFE)

You will never be able to justify other people's expectations... Others will always be unhappy with something, because their cause is inside them, not inside you.
- Papaji

Any dependence on others is very fragile, because what others can give, they will take away. Only what was yours from the beginning will remain yours to the end.
- Nisargadatta Maharaj

The most important decoration is a clear conscience.
- Cicero

Even if you are an angel, there will always be someone who does not like the rustle of your wings.

We never know exactly what the other person is thinking and feeling: we interpret their behavior and resent our own thoughts about it.

We become like the people we associate with. Choose your environment - no matter how unique we are, it still affects us.
- Robert DeNiro

"The condemnation of another is always wrong, because no one can ever know what happened and is happening in the soul of the one whom you condemn ... "
- Lev Tolstoy

Free is he who can not lie.
- Albert Camus

People listen but don't hear. They look, but they don't see. They know, but they don't understand.
- Bernard Werber

Friends do not have to be perfect, it is enough that in difficult times and in the most important moments of our lives they were there.

Living the way you want is not selfishness. Selfishness is when others have to think and live the way you want.
- Oscar Wilde

The greatest wealth is the mind. The biggest poverty is stupidity. Of all the fears, the most frightening is narcissism. The best thing for your kind is a good character. Beware of making friends with fools, for they, wanting to benefit you, will harm you. Beware of making friends with misers, too, because at the most necessary moment they will not budge and will not rush to your aid. Beware of making friends with the evildoer, for he will betray you for a trifle and leave you. And yet do not make friends with a liar, for he is like a mirage: he will show you what is far as near, and what is close will move you away from you.

Trust, like the heart, is a palace made of glass. One day you see how it breaks, and then each of the million fragments pierces the human soul.
- Magnificent century, Sultan Suleyman

“Peace can never be achieved through force. It can only be achieved through mutual understanding.”
- Albert Einstein

"He who is careless with the truth in the little things, there is no trust in the important things."
- Albert Einstein

Not a single word flying in your address should change your opinion of yourself.
- Winston Churchill

Why do I need others? I don't want to be a wagon that gets on and off. I need one passenger with whom I will get to the final.
- Al Pacino

There are enough judges in the world. A friend is made to accept you.
- Antoine de Saint-Exupery. Citadel

We must remain faithful. Loyalty to the word, obligations, others, oneself. You have to be one of those people who never let you down.
- Erich Maria Remarque

What you hide from the enemy, do not tell your friend, because there is no guarantee that friendship will last forever.
- Abu-l-Faraj

A busy person is rarely visited by idlers: flies do not fly to a boiling pot.
- Benjamin Franklin

Treat everyone with kindness and respect, even those who are rude to you. Not because they are worthy people, but because you are a worthy person.
- Confucius

How much more suffering will the human hand inflict until we understand that we are all part of this magnificent orchestra of life, its notes divinely woven on the matter of the Cosmos?
- P. Corey

Never confuse my character with my attitude. My character depends on me, and my attitude depends on your behavior.

It is easier to get a slap in the face than to give it yourself.

The weak one strikes first.

I try to do what's in this moment seems right to me; at another moment, the same thing may seem wrong to me. Therefore, I try not to impose my truth on those who do not see the truth in it. I sing my melody while everyone around me sings his song
- Hazrat Inayat Khan

We often repeat that a person is judged by his deeds, but sometimes we forget that a word is also an act. A person's speech is a mirror of himself. Everything false and deceitful, vulgar and vulgar, no matter how hard we try to hide it from others, all emptiness, callousness or rudeness breaks through in speech with the same force and obviousness with which sincerity and nobility, depth and subtlety of thoughts and feelings are manifested.
- Lev Tolstoy

“Crucify at least one habit in yourself, one that seemed impossible to get rid of. Fight with yourself, with your flesh...”
- Peter Mamonov

People do not change, they only temporarily play the right role for the sake of their interests. And then they stick the knife in the back again.

Any battle begins on the battlefield of the human mind. Whoever knows how to subdue his anger is like a wise man who won his battle without starting it...
- From A. Novykh's book "AllatRa"

The worse a person thinks about the world around him, the worse this world becomes for him. The more he gets upset about failures, the more willingly new ones come.

Just because you can't see something doesn't mean it doesn't exist.

Let people think the way they like. And you go your own way.
- Pilot Babaji

It is not about the satiety of your belly and the health of your body that you need to take care of. For no matter how much you eat, sooner or later you will still get hungry. And whatever your health, sooner or later your flesh will still die. The soul is eternal. And only she is worthy of true care.
- From A. Novykh's book "AllatRa"

Kind words leave a wonderful imprint in the souls of people. They soften, comfort and heal the heart of the one who hears them.
- Blaise Pascal

The older and wiser a person is, the less he wants to sort things out. I just want to get up, wish you all the best and leave.

Never forget about God, especially when everything is fine with you...

People spread rumors when they don’t know how else to explain why someone succeeds and they don’t.

Thanks to all those who refused to help me. Thanks to you, I did it myself.

If the caterpillar had held on to the past, it would never have become a butterfly.

The one who sees only their shortcomings in others and thinks and talks about it all the time will never be loved! The mind of a person, tuned to see only the bad, is not inclined to peace and generates anxiety around itself. Negatively colored thinking interferes with the life of both the person himself and everyone around him.

If suddenly you become bad for someone, then a lot of good has been done for this person.
- Lev Tolstoy.

They told me that the pain is strong ... but I endured! Don't you dare pity your enemies... but I did! I was knocked down again ... but I got up! I was told you will not find ... but I was looking! They kept repeating and don’t dream ... but I dreamed! And even if the world collapses... I'll start over!

My Friend, no matter what a person says about others, in fact he always talks only about himself.
- Universe

My Friend, you see in others only what is in you. What do you see?...
- Universe

My Friend, if you feel in love with the whole world, then everyone around you will be in love with you. Love!
- Universe

My Friend, if you could only see what happens when you say words of love and gratitude, you would not stop for a second...
- Universe

My friend, there are such people - you think about them and it becomes warm, regardless of the distance. Maybe it's because they live in our hearts?..
- Universe

Man used to ask himself: who am I? There is a scientist, an American, a driver, a Jew, an immigrant ... But you should always ask yourself: am I shit?
- I. Brodsky

To control oneself so as to respect others as oneself, and to treat them as we would like to be treated - that is what can be called the doctrine of philanthropy.
- Confucius

If they answered you with silence, this does not mean that they did not answer you.
- Socrates

If someone treated you rudely, unfairly, this is not at all a reason to react with resentment to injustice or to respond with rudeness to rudeness. A good attitude towards everyone is a guarantee of great peace that you create for yourself and for everyone!
- Divine Lao Tzu "Treatise on Virtue"

If something hurts - be silent, otherwise they will hit exactly there.
- Fedor Emelianenko

Always respond only with kindness, this is the only way to make this world a better place. Answer kindly or don't answer at all. If you return evil for evil, then evil becomes greater.
- Buddha

When you hate someone, you hate something in him that is in yourself. What is not in ourselves, we do not care.
- Hermann Hesse

Now it is difficult for everyone: to lie to some, to believe in others.

Don't take the mask off the person, what if it's a muzzle?
- G. Gurdjieff

Whoever does not respond with anger to anger saves both - both himself and the other.
- Eastern wisdom

"Don't mistake silence for ignorance, calmness for inaction, kindness for weakness."

Modesty and conscientiousness are rewarded only in novels. In life they are used, and then thrown aside.
- E.M. Remarque "Three comrades"

If you set off towards your goal and stop along the way to throw stones at every dog ​​that barks at you, you will never reach your goal.
- F.M. Dostoevsky

People, like books, are valued for their content.

You don't lose anything when you lose fake friends.
- Joan Jett

To many zeros, it seems that they are the orbit along which the world rotates.
- Jerzy Lec

We move to a higher level when we begin to treat others better than they treat us.

Treat people the way you want. Because they won't treat you the way you treat them anyway...

How to distinguish a strong person from a weak one? If a strong person is dissatisfied with life, then he makes claims against himself, and if a weak one, then against people.
- Han Xiangzi

No one hurts us but ourselves.
- Diogenes

The more I get to know people, the more I appreciate my dog.
- Socrates

And why is there no red book for vanishing moral values?
- Taguhi Semirdjyan

I don't know any other sign of superiority other than kindness...
- Ludwig van Beethoven

Don't try to see God, but try to act, act and live in such a way that the Lord will be happy to see you.

Some people have difficulty communicating with each other due to differences in mental wavelengths.
- Boreev Georgy "Alien civilizations of Atlantis"

You never know who is worthy of trust. The closest, sometimes - betray. The most alien - unexpectedly help.

You never need to look for someone to blame - you need to live without hurting anyone, not judging other people and being absolutely free.
- Omar Khayyam

Don't judge someone else's past - you don't know your future

The worst thing is when you just stop believing in yourself and start thinking that everyone else is right.
- Naomi Watts

People are always criticizing. Don't let them break you. Reaching your goal is the best form of revenge.
- Sarah Jessica Parker

It's scary to say it, but people only see what they want to see and hear only what they want to hear.
- Anna Akhmatova

It seems to me that life is too short, and you should not spend it on cherishing enmity in your soul or remembering grievances.
- Charlotte Bronte

People are like violins: when the last string breaks, you become a tree.
- Carmen Silva

If you're being flattered, then prepare to strike.
- Ludmila Gurchenko

A spiritual person is all continuous pain, that is, he is in pain for what is happening, he is in pain for people.
- Saint P.

People are often unintelligent, illogical and self-centered. Forgive them anyway!
- Mother Teresa

Good parenting isn't about not spilling sauce on the tablecloth, it's about not noticing if someone else does.
- A.P. Chekhov

It has always been a mystery to me: how people can respect themselves by humiliating others like themselves.
- Mahatma Gandhi

Actions are heard better than words ... Your words mean nothing to me if actions say otherwise.

Keep your spiritual light. Against all odds, no matter what. This is the light by which the same bright souls will find you.

I never get offended, I just change my mind about a person ...

The degree of truthfulness of a person is an indicator of the degree of his moral perfection.
- Lev Nikolayevich Tolstoy

Remember! This day is non-refundable and non-exchangeable.
- Warren Buffett

Life is like a coin. You can spend it however you like... But you can only spend it once...

I want to believe in beauty, to understand the essence of life. Seeing all of you happy... well... and myself a little bit...

People are very fond of finding an enemy from the outside and blaming him for their problems. But the Vedas say that a person has only six enemies: this is lust, anger, envy, selfishness, pride, illusion.

Hands may be clean, but thoughts are stained.
- Euripides

More terrible than it is, it seems hidden evil.
- Martial

The most terrible evil is that which pretends to be good.
- Publius Sir

To the vile, both kindness and wisdom seem vile; dirt - only dirt to taste.
- W. Shakespeare

I have heard so much slander against you that I have no doubt: you are a wonderful person! - O. Wild "Remember, my joy! A person with a grateful heart never needs anything."
- Elder Nikolai Guryanov

Do not retell insulting and insulting words, do not tell either friend or foe about the shortcomings of your neighbor and do not reveal what you know is bad in his behavior. Listening to the condemnation of your neighbor, try to drown it out.
— From "Pious Thoughts"

The more severely and mercilessly you judge yourself, the more justly and leniently you will judge others.
- Confucius

A person is drawn into hatred towards the one who gave him advice.
- K. Castaneda

The life of a person who enjoys only pleasures, without speculation and morality, in my opinion, has no value.
- Kant

It's easy to believe people, it's hard to believe again after they betrayed you.

People never notice what we do for them, but they perfectly notice what we do not do for them.

Don't compare your life with someone else's. You have no idea what others are really experiencing.

I am ashamed that I served in the army and contributed to the training to kill. And so I almost never say that I did military service.
— S. Cher, "War Depression"

Be strict with yourself and indulgent with others, and you will have no enemies.
- Chinese wisdom

One day, people suddenly realize that they don't have to live the way they were told.
- Alan Keatley

When a person suddenly comes to the realization that there are no boundaries, he becomes everything; mountains, rivers, grass, trees, sun, moon, universe - all this is him.

Sadness from the fact that you do not see the good in the good.
- N. Gogol, From a notebook, 1846

If you smile, I will smile too. And it doesn't matter if you see my smile or I see yours. It's not what we see that matters. What is more important is how we feel.
- L.N. Tolstoy

Do not litter your memory with insults, otherwise there may simply not be room for wonderful moments.
- Dostoevsky

May you have a heart that will never harden, a character that will never rot, and a touch that will never hurt.
- Charles Dickens

I picked a flower and it withered. I caught a moth and it died in my palm. And then I realized that you can touch Beauty only with your heart.
- P.Orsag-Gvezdos

If you defeat these enemies within your heart, then you will no longer have any external enemies. As soon as you cope with your vices, you will see that there are only friends around you.
- Avadhut Swami

Experience has taught me that if people do something against you, it will ultimately benefit you.
- Indira Gandhi

We must find the strength and desire to do good, turn around, speak warm words, call and write even to those whom we were offended by. To be able to forgive and love as if we had never been hurt.

Help each other! Pray for a person if you see that he is discouraged. But prayer can do anything.
- Schema-Archimandrite Zosima (Sokur)

What a huge difference between the beautiful, free, unclouded world of nature, so calm, quiet and incomprehensible, and our daily bustle with its insignificant mournful anxieties and disputes.
- Rabindranath Tagore

I want to learn to look at time without comparing; move forward without looking back; appreciate what is, in its originality; just live in the present, believing that miracles sometimes happen; forbid yourself to think about traps, consequences; stop being afraid and, most importantly, do not compare.
- Elchin Safarli

Both in art and in life, everything beautiful belongs to the one who is able to see and feel.
- Evgeny Leonov

For everyone who knows you, you are different.
- Chuck Palahniuk

It is generally worth avoiding to say anything about people, to evaluate them, to praise or blame them, because the heart of a person is a deep sea, and we see only its surface.
- Rafail Karelin

Your vision will become clear only if you look into your heart. Those who look outside - fantasize. Those who look within awaken.
- K. Jung

Try your best to purify yourself of evil towards people. For by accumulating evil towards people in yourself, you accumulate poison, which sooner or later will kill a person in you.
- Osho

Do not be afraid to lose those who are not afraid to lose you. The brighter the bridges behind you burn, the brighter the road ahead.
- Omar Khayyam

Never go back to places where you felt bad. Never ask from those who refused once. And no longer let those who once hurt you close.

If you want to understand life, then stop believing what they say and write, but observe and feel.
- Anton Chekhov

You got out of the rags to riches, but quickly becoming a prince. Do not forget, so as not to jinx it, princes are not eternal - dirt is eternal.
- Omar Khayyam

We must admire each other, tell a person that he is talented, beautiful. Why skimp on mutual admiration? After all, life is so short, we are all candidates for the dead.
- Renata Litvinova

Difficulties make strong people even stronger, and, oddly enough, more cheerful, while the weak become angry, and this destroys them.
- Renata Litvinova

Avoid those who try to undermine your faith in yourself. This trait is characteristic of small people. great person on the contrary, makes you feel that you can become great.
- Mark Twain

Make life around you beautiful. And let every person feel that meeting with you is a gift.
-Osho

I am indifferent to the knife blows of the enemy, but I am tormented by the pinprick of a friend.
- Victor Hugo

I will still be here, nearby, on the same planet as you, waiting for you.
— Frederic Begbeder

People are an even greater poison than alcohol and tobacco.
- E.M. Remarque, "Three Comrades"

If people, in communicating, developed the desire to understand, and not the ability to judge, they would dance in the streets more often and get divorced less often in courts.
- Mark Gungor

You can’t trust anyone completely - the one you trust will definitely hurt you. An excess of trust will drink you to the bottom. In this sense, the world is also a vampire.
- "Lost Souls", Poppy Bright

Reason is given to man so that he understands that it is impossible to live by reason alone. People live by feelings, and feelings do not care who is right.
- E.M. Remarque, "Life on loan"

I learned a long time ago that it's not worth fighting pigs. You can get dirty and besides give them pleasure.
- Bernard Show

Before you pour out your soul, make sure that the "vessel" does not leak.
- Bernard Show

- Paulo Coelho

The one who is guilty does not always ask for forgiveness. The one who cherishes the relationship asks for forgiveness.

So a sharp knife will not hurt,
How vile gossip hurts a lie,
And only after you discover
What did the one with whom you are friends.
- Sebastian Brant

No one in this world is your friend or enemy, but every person is your teacher.
- Eastern wisdom

Cats are different. A cat does not change its attitude towards a person, even if it is in its interests. A cat cannot be hypocritical... If a cat loves you, you know it. If you don't like it, you know it too.
- Stephen King

After rain always comes a rainbow, after tears - happiness.
- Mother Teresa

Do your own thing, and how others look at you, do not consider it important. For only God's judgment is true. People don't know themselves very well, let alone others...
- Saint Theophan the Recluse

An ideal husband is a man who believes that he has an ideal wife.
- Bernard Show

Don't mess up your life with people who don't appreciate you.
- Paulo Coelho

Don't be afraid of enemies, be afraid friends. Betrayed by friends, not enemies.
- Johnny Depp

The joy that we bring to another captivates us by the fact that it not only does not fade, like any reflection, but returns to us even brighter.
- Hugo

Parting with a person is five seconds of business, and in order to part with thoughts about him, five years may not be enough.
- Sergey Yesenin

It doesn't matter how often you see each other - what matters is what these meetings mean to you.
- Erich Maria Remarque

Honesty won't make you many friends, but the ones that do will be real ones.
- John Lennon

Whoever doesn't need me, don't let them disturb me...
I live rejecting evil, keeping love and kindness in my soul...
I love those who cannot live a day without me.
And I do not interfere with those who are happy without me ...
- Author unknown

Everything in life is for the better. And if people have turned away from you, then life simply saves you from garbage.
- A. Jolie

• Life leaves best friends around. Illness - sent by God.
• I don't choose my friends. This is stupid and useless. I am much more interested in choosing vegetables in the market. Friends are gifts of fate.
• A good thing is the hand of a friend. It does not oblige the one who holds it out to anything, and it is very comforting to the one who shakes it ... (A. Gavalda)
• If you make new friends, don't forget the old ones. (Erasmus of Rotterdam)
• Find friends, scatter enemies! (Ray Bradbury)

The best quotes about friends with meaning

• We need to value friendship, and not just be able to have fun together.
• I do not need a friend who, agreeing with me in everything, changes his views with me, nodding his head, because the shadow does the same better. (Plutarch)
• This is what it means to be best friends. That's what they are for. To help you not fall into the abyss. (Lauren Oliver)
• Short quotes about friends with meaning Nothing strengthens a friendship like the belief that this friend is better than another. (Honore de Balzac)
• Only those people who know how to forgive each other for minor shortcomings can be bound by true friendship. (Jean de La Bruyère)
• Enemies always tell the truth, friends never. (Cicero)
• Only the hand of a friend can tear the thorns out of the heart. (Claude Helvetius)
• Friendship does not mean a long acquaintance and communication with some person. This means letting him into your life and soul forever.
• In my life I have become convinced that talking with friends most of all and most inconspicuously takes away time; friends are great time thieves. petrarch
• Friendship is the most necessary thing for life, since no one wants to live without friends, even if he had all the other benefits. (Aristotle)
• Get to know people through personal communication to have real friends.
• One of the most big problems in our life - to figure out who is your friend. (Mark Levy)
• The wise man was asked: How many kinds of friendship are there? Four, he replied. Friends are like food - every day you need them. There are friends, like medicine, you look for them when you feel bad. There are friends, like a disease, they themselves are looking for you. But there are such friends as air - they are not visible, but they are always with you ...
• Friendship is not always tested by misfortune. Sometimes it's also happiness.
• We are not particularly pleased with our friends if, appreciating our good qualities, they allow themselves to notice our shortcomings as well. (Vauvenargue)
• A friend is the person who comes when everyone else is gone...
• Our friends are part of our happiness.
• Passing the test of difficult life situations, only the most faithful friends remain in our lives. They accept us when we are cool, witty, lucky. They love us hysterical, snotty, weak.
• Relationships do not create friends, but common interests. (Democritus)
• In the building of human happiness, friendship builds walls, and love forms a dome.
• A friend is someone who gives you complete freedom to be yourself. (Jim Morrison)
• Quotes about friends with the meaning of great people- Friends are known in trouble, but even more so in joy and luck. It is the feeling of envy that most often separates once close people.
• Friendly jealousy is perhaps worse than any other.
• Cheer up and remember - when it's hard, take a book and read. Books are friends that never die. (Confucius)
• Only enemies tell each other the truth. Friends and lovers, entangled in the web of mutual debt, lie endlessly. (Stephen King)

The value of a fortune is known when it is acquired, and the value of a friend is known when it is lost. (Petit San)

Diligently avoid all friendship with fools and rogues, if the word "friendship" is generally applicable in relations with such people. (Chesterfield)

The one who thinks that he can do without others is mistaken. But he who thinks that others cannot do without him is doubly mistaken. (Silaev)

Relationships do not create friends, but common interests. (Democritus)

Friends are not always friends. (Lermontov)

The most I can do for my friend is just to be his friend. (Toro)

True friendship either binds equals or makes equals. (Sir)

Do not rush to choose friends, even more so to change them. (Franklin)

Your friends love you the way you are, your wife loves you, but wants to make a different person out of you. (Chesterton)

The Lord gave us relatives, but we, thank God, are free to choose our friends. (Mumford)

In friendship, as in, people are happy because they do not know the truth about a loved one. (Show)

Friendship penetrates the lives of all people, but in order to maintain it, sometimes it is necessary to endure grievances. (Cicero)

The heat of friendship warms the heart without burning it. (La Rochefoucauld)

As rare as true love is, true friendship is even rarer. (La Rochefoucauld)

It's not so hard to die for a friend as it is to find a friend worth dying for. (Bulwer-Lytton)

A friend is like wine, the older the better. (Allen)

Only the devotion of friends - the rulers, it is more beautiful than all the riches of the world. (Ronsard)

Enemies always tell the truth, friends never. (Cicero)

Do not rush to see a friend in everyone you meet and do not trust your secrets to just anyone. (Avicenna)

Happiness gives us friends, misfortune tests them. German NM

In misfortune, a friend is known and an enemy is exposed. Epictetus

Anyone who, for his own benefit, would let down a friend, has no right to friendship. J.-J. Rousseau

The strongest friendships are almost always forged in a difficult time for friends. K.Colton

Nothing binds hearts like the joy of shared tears. J.-J. Rousseau

A friend is one who takes pleasure in doing good to another, and who believes that this other has the same feelings for him. D.Raizman

We acquire friends not by the fact that we receive services from them, but by the fact that we ourselves provide them. Thucydides

Friends are there to help each other. R. Rolland

You can never do too much for a devoted friend. G.Ibsen

A friend is one who, whenever you need him, knows about it. J. Renard

Friends under happy circumstances should appear only by invitation, and in unfortunate circumstances - without invitation, on their own. Isocrates

A friend loves at all times and, like a brother, will appear in times of adversity. Solomon

For friendship, any burden is easy. D.Gay

It’s even nice to be sick when you know that there are people who are waiting for your recovery as a holiday. A.P. Chekhov

Love is available to everyone, but friendship is a test of the heart. S.Udeto

Only a true friend can tolerate his friend's weaknesses. W. Shakespeare

Only those people who know how to forgive each other for minor shortcomings can be bound by true friendship. J.Labruyère

The best friend can be the one who knows the worst about you and still loves you. L.N. Tolstoy

Friendship is content with the possible, without demanding what is due. Aristotle

If you keep your friend and remain worthy of him, this will be the best test of your character, spirit, heart, even morality. G.Marx

Friendship penetrates the lives of all people, but sometimes it is necessary to endure grievances in order to preserve it. Cicero

We willingly forgive our friends shortcomings that do not hurt us. F. La Rochefoucauld

Friendship can be strong only with the maturity of the mind and age. Cicero

Great friendship is always restless. M. Sevigne

Sincere friendship is inherent in giving advice and listening to them. Cicero

Strive to have a straightforward adviser, a demanding friend by your side, and love not the one who flatters you, but the one who corrects you. J.Sand

Beware of counting flatterers as friends: That is your true friend who is honest and direct. M.Saadi

To indulge the weaknesses of your friends, turn a blind eye to their shortcomings, admire their vices as if they were virtues, what could be closer to stupidity? Erasmus of Rotterdam

True friendship must be frank and free from pretense and assent. Cicero

I do not need a friend who agrees with me in everything, changes views with me, nodding his head, because the shadow does the same better. Plutarch

Many who appear to be friends are not really friends, and vice versa, some who do not appear to be friends are actually friends. Democritus

Not the friend who smears honey, but the one who tells the truth in the face. Russian NM

We are not particularly pleased with our friends if, appreciating our good qualities, they allow themselves to notice our shortcomings as well. L.Vauvenarg

You should not be angry with a friend who, wishing you well, will make you wake up from sweet dreams, even if he did it somewhat harshly and rudely. W. Scott

I value friendship, not afraid of harsh and decisive words. M. Montaigne

Only in one case we have nothing to fear from offending a friend - this is when it comes to telling him the truth and thus proving our loyalty to him. Cicero

If a friend reproaches you for any shortcoming, always think that he has not yet told you everything. T.Fuller

If you want to do a service to your friends, then you should not be silent about their shortcomings. A.Dedibur

A friend who tells us thoroughly about our shortcomings is an invaluable treasure. S. Saint-Evremont

A friend is a merciless judge who does not allow any deviation from the truth. F. Alberoni

What serious mistakes and extreme absurdities do many people, especially people of a higher position, fall into because they do not have a friend who can tell them about these mistakes. F. Bacon

Who will tell me the truth about me, if not a friend, and it is necessary to hear the truth about yourself from another. V.G. Belinsky

From friends, we expect a fair assessment that others cannot give us. F. Alberoni

The nicest thing is to have friends who always tell you honest truth. O.Henry

Whose ears are closed to the truth and who is not able to listen to it from the lips of a friend, nothing will save him. Cicero

How sweet are criticisms from friendly lips; you believe in them, they make you sad, because there is no doubt that they are correct, and they do not hurt. O.Balzac

A true friend is our second conscience. French NM

A friend is someone who should be able to appreciate us. F. Alberoni

Express only part of the praise to your friend in person, the other part - behind his back. Indian NM

Equality in love and friendship is a sacred thing. I.A. Krylov

Where equality ends, there can be no friendship. D. Ober

Trust is the first condition of friendship. J.Labruyère

It is more shameful not to trust friends than to be deceived by them. F. La Rochefoucauld

Friendship ends where distrust begins. Seneca

Friends should be remembered not only in their presence, but also in their absence. Thales

Distance and absence, unpleasant as it may be to admit, are detrimental to all friendship. For the people whom we do not see, be it our dearest friends, in the course of time dry up little by little in our representation to the level of abstract concepts, through which our participation in them becomes more and more rational. A. Schopenhauer

Absence is the touchstone for true affection. A.Lacordaire

There is no greater joy in this world than the sight of relatives and friends. There is no more painful torment on earth than to be with glorious friends in separation. A. Rudaki

A friend is a person who notices all our virtues and even forgives them. French writer Adrian Decourcelle

I love my friend most of all because I can discuss his shortcomings. English writer William Gaslitt

Friends find it difficult to remain impartial, so they are often particularly unfair in their attempt to be impartial. German philosopher Friedrich Goebbel

Friends last longer the less they are used. Folk wisdom.

Friendship often turns into love, but love rarely turns into friendship. English publicist Charles Colton

Friendship is usually a prologue from an ordinary acquaintance to enmity. Russian historian V. Klyuchevsky

Friendship is a duet in which only one of the participants is the soloist. French writer Adrian Decourcelle

Friends love you and accept you for who you are, and although your wife loves you, she wants to change you into another person. / The great English writer Gilbert Chesterton

Friendship is such a great, sweet, holy, constant and reliable feeling that you can carry in your heart throughout your life, unless, of course, you ask to borrow money from each other. / American writer Mark Twain

There are no friends for a lover. French writer Henri Stendhal

The sun and the stove warm the air, the dress warms the body, and friendship warms the soul. Kozma Prutkov

A friend is a gift that you give to yourself. Robert Louis Stevenson.

Making friends, real friends, is the best sign of a successful person in life. Edward Everett Hale.

To have many friends is to have none. (Rotterdam)

Sometimes there are periods when a person cannot have a better friend than loneliness, and best friend than silence. (Toyshibekov)

Sincerity of relations, truth in communication - that's friendship. (Suvorov)

Fulfilling the duties of friendship is somewhat more difficult than admiring it. (Lessing)

When your friends are happy, you are happy too.

Whoever is a good friend, he also has good friends. (Machiavelli)

He who does not seek friends for himself is his own enemy. (Rustaveli)

Who wants to have a friend without flaws, he remains without friends. (Bias)

It is easy to turn a friend into an enemy, it is difficult to turn an enemy into a friend. (Toyshibekov)

False friends follow us like shadows as we walk in the sun and
immediately leave us as soon as we enter the shadow. (Bovie)

The best thing is new, the best friend is old.

The best part of ours is made up of friends. (Lincoln)

It is better to listen to the reproaches of friends than to lose them.

It's better to die than to doubt your friends. (Macedonian)

Love should not turn into friendship, although friendship sometimes turns into love. (Zugumov)

Love often turns into hatred than friendship into enmity. (Shevelev)

Many who appear to be friends are not really friends, and vice versa, some who do not appear to be friends are actually friends. (Democritus)

A wise friend will not abandon a friend, despite all the hardships. (Rustaveli)

We do not so much need the help of friends as the confidence that we will receive it. (Democritus)

They came to Him with a paralytic, who was carried by four; and, not being able to approach Him for the crowd, they opened the roof of the house where He was, and, having dug through it, lowered the bed on which the paralytic lay.

Whatever you want, imagine pleasure - whether low, whether noble - the sweetness of friendship will be higher than all of them. Point out even the sweetness of honey, but even honey becomes cloying; but a friend never, as long as he remains a friend, on the contrary, love for him grows more and more, while the pleasure arising from it never produces satiety. A friend is dearer than this temporary life. That is why many, after the death of their friends, did not want to live anymore. With a friend, another can live in exile with pleasure; and without a friend and a house would not want to live. With a friend, poverty is not difficult, but without him it is a burden both health and wealth. He who has a friend has another self. I regret that I cannot explain this by example, because I realize that everything said will be much less than what should have been said. That's what friendship means for this life. And God has prepared for her such a great reward that it is impossible to express. He gives us a reward for loving one another.

We make a friend without knowing if he is married or where he works. All this is trifles before the main thing: he sees the same truth. Among true friends, a person represents only himself. No one cares about his profession, family, income or nationality. Of course, most often they know this, but by accident. Friends are like kings. This is how rulers meet independent countries in some neutral country. Friendship, by its very nature, is not interested in our body, or in the whole “expanded body”, which consists of relatives, past, service, connections. Outside the friendly circle, we are not only Peter or Anna, but also a husband or wife, brother or sister, boss, subordinate, colleague.

Among friends, things are different. Love exposes the body, friendship - the very personality.

This is the reason for the marvelous irresponsibility of friendly love. I don't have to be anyone's friend, and nobody has to be mine. Friendship is useless and unnecessary, like philosophy, like art, like the created world, which God was not obliged to create. She is not needed by life; she is one of those things without which life is not needed.

C. S. Lewis

The life we ​​live here has its own charm: it has its own splendor, corresponding to all earthly beauty. Sweet is human friendship, which binds many into one with sweet ties.

Why are you alone? Why don't you make many friends? Why are you not the creator of love? Why don't you arrange friendship, that greatest praise for virtue? Just as being in agreement with the evil ones irritates God especially, so being in agreement with the good ones especially pleases Him. Do not be with many in wickedness; Prepare your friends before your home, before anything else. If the peacemaker is the son of God (See:), then how much more is he who makes friends? If only the one who reconciles is called the son of God, then what reward will be worthy of the one who makes the reconciled friends?

Filmed with each other were friends. When their friends left for the other world, they were sad for them, although they already knew how wonderful life with God is ... Real, genuine friendship, like true love, is also a gift from the Lord. A gift given to a heart prepared for it. Prepared by trying to learn to love, be friends, sacrifice, give. It is in friendship that a person will soon learn the meaning of the words that it is more blessed to give than to take. And in general, if someone wants to understand how true friendship with this or that person is, whether it is friendship in principle or something else, you just need to ask yourself the question: what is more pleasant for you - to give him or take from him?

Hegumen Nektary (Morozov)

Tender love can be called the highest degree friendship, consisting in the fiery disposition and attraction of the lover to the beloved. Therefore, so that brotherly love is not external, but internal and fiery, it is said: Be brotherly love to each other with tenderness ().

Like that spring, which, as they say, even amid the bitter waters of the sea remains sweet, I did not follow those that led to destruction, but I myself attracted friends to the most perfect. And God did me a good deed in this too, united me with the bonds of friendship with the wisest man, who alone was above all in life and word. Who is this? It is very easy to recognize him. This Basil is a great acquisition for the present century. Together with him we studied, and lived, and thought. If I have to boast of anything, then I made up with him a couple not dishonorable for Hellas. We had everything in common, and one soul in both connected what the bodies separated. And what primarily united us was God and the pursuit of perfection. When we have gained so much mutual confidence in each other that we have expressed our deepest heart to each other, then we have united among ourselves with even closer ties of love, because the sameness of feelings and mutual affection makes it more inseparable.

Friendship is born out of friendship when two or three notice that they understand something in the same way. Previously, each of them thought that only he understood this. Friendship begins with the question: “How, and do you know this? And I thought I was alone…”

C. S. Lewis

Besides, is there any wall so indestructible, so fortified by a collection of huge stones, so inaccessible to the attacks of enemies, as the union of those who love each other and are united among themselves with unanimity? It reflects the intrigues of the devil himself, and quite naturally. Rising against him in alliance with each other, such people become invincible by his tricks and erect brilliant trophies of love. And just as the strings of a lyre, although numerous, but tuned in harmony, sound with the most pleasant sound, so exactly, united by like-mindedness, they emit a harmonious voice of love.

Saint John Chrysostom

The Apostle Paul in the Second Epistle to the Corinthians has the following lines: Having come to Troas to preach the gospel of Christ, although the door of the Lord was opened to me, I had no rest in my spirit, because I did not find my brother Titus there; but, having said goodbye to them, I went to Macedonia (). The apostle lived for the sake of the good news about Christ - this was the meaning of his life. But in one of the cities where he could preach, and successfully, he does not find his friend Titus, gets upset and leaves ... Is this love, is this friendship? Yes, this is love and this is friendship.

Hegumen Nektary (Morozov)

Soon after your departure and even following your footsteps, arriving in the city, how much I was saddened that I did not find you, is it necessary to tell you about this, such a person who does not need words, but you know from experience, because and I have experienced similar failures myself. For how dear it was for me to see and embrace Eusebius, who was excellent in everything, and again to return in memory to my youth and recall those days when we had one roof, and one hearth, and the same mentor, when both rest and occupation, and luxury and poverty - we shared everything equally among ourselves. How dearly, do you think, I appreciated that I would renew all this in my memory when I met with you, and, throwing off this heavy old age, again, apparently, I would become young from an old man?

One might have thought that Goethe, in his old age, was surrounded by the whole Olympus of the German intelligentsia, that all the favorites crowded into his senile chair. In fact, he spent his days alone and was glad to some Eckerman, seated him to dinner, took his soul away ... Leibniz, when he died, was escorted to the grave by only one old servant. All of us, I say, are not rich in friendship, if this holy word is understood in a holy sense. And therefore the cult of friendship is necessary, the cult of benevolence, pure love for a person.

M. O. Menshikov

He who has friends, even if he is poor, becomes much richer than the rich: what he does not dare to say for himself, a friend will say for him; what he cannot deliver to himself, he will achieve through another.

Saint John Chrysostom

Sometimes we don't have enough faith, sometimes we don't have the strength to get up, sometimes we need help. And there is a story in the Gospel about how a paralyzed man was brought by four of his friends to the Savior so that He would heal him. There was a crowd of people, it was impossible to break through, but they loved and respected their friend so much, they so firmly believed that Christ could help him, that they went up to the roof, dug it and lowered the bed on which this sick friend of theirs was lying at the feet of Christ . And the Gospel says: seeing their faith, Christ told the sick man that he was healing him (See:).

We do not value friendship because we do not see it. And we do not see it because it is the least natural of all types of love, instinct does not participate in it, there is very little or simply no biological necessity in it. It is almost not connected with the nerves, it does not blush, does not turn pale, does not lose consciousness. It connects personality with personality; as soon as people became friends, they stood out from the herd. Without love, none of us would have been born, without affection, we would not have grown up, without friendship, one can both grow and live. From a biological point of view, our species does not need it. Society is even hostile to her. Note how disliked her superiors. The director of the school, the commander of the regiment, the captain of the ship becomes uneasy when one of their subordinates is bound by a strong friendship.

C. S. Lewis

It is impossible, however, to express in words how much pleasure the presence of friends gives; only those who have experienced it understand it. From a friend, you can shamelessly ask for a favor and accept a favor. When they order us, we are grateful to them - and mourn when they are shy. We have nothing that does not belong to them. Often, despising everything here, we, however, do not want to part with this life only for them.

Saint John Chrysostom

The union of true love and friendship cannot be broken by anything. Thus, nothing could separate the martyrs of the saints: neither fire, nor water, nor sword, nor death, nor life, from the beloved Christ. So, Saint Paul, a soul bound by love with Jesus Christ, not only wanted to be a prisoner, but was also ready to die in Jerusalem for the name of the Lord Jesus (See:).

A friend is more desirable than the world itself. I'm talking about a sincere friend. And do not marvel at this. Indeed, it is better for us that the sun be darkened than to lose friends; it is better to live in darkness than to live without friends. And I'll tell you why. Many who look at the sun are in darkness, but those who are rich in friends are never mournful. I'm talking about spiritual friends who prefer nothing to friendship. Such was Paul, who, willingly giving (to his friends) his soul, although they did not ask him for it, would gladly throw himself into hell for them. So it is necessary to love with fiery love!

Saint John Chrysostom

For a Christian, every person is a neighbor, but not everyone is a friend. And the enemy, and the hater, and the slanderer - nevertheless, the neighbor, but even the lover - is not always a friend, because the relationship of friendship is deeply individual and exclusive. So, even the Lord Jesus Christ calls the apostles his friends only before parting with them, quite on the threshold of his cross torment and death (See:). Consequently, the presence of brothers, however beloved they may be, does not yet eliminate the need for a friend, and vice versa. On the contrary, the need for a friend is all the more burning because of the presence of brothers, and the givenness of a friend includes the need for brothers.

Archpriest Pavel Florensky

Do not speak to me about the friends of the present, because, along with many other things, this good has now been lost; but remember that under the apostles - I'm not talking about the chief leaders, but even about those who believed themselves - everyone, as it was said: there was one heart and one soul; and none of his possessions called his own, but they had everything in common. ... And everyone was given what anyone needed (). Then there was no mine and yours.

Here is friendship, when someone does not consider his own, but belongs to his neighbor, and considers his neighbor’s property alien to himself, when one so protects the life of another as if it were his own, and the latter repays him in return with the same favor. But where, they will say, can one find such a friend now? Precisely, nowhere is it possible, because we do not want to be like that, and if we wanted to, it would even be very possible. If this were really impossible, then Christ would not have commanded this and would not have spoken so much about love. Friendship is a great thing, and to what extent a great thing, no one can understand this, not even a word can express this, unless one learns from his own experience.

Saint John Chrysostom

To live among the brethren, one must have a Friend, even a distant one; in order to have a Friend, one must live among the brethren, at least be with them in spirit. In fact, in order to treat everyone as oneself, one must see oneself in at least one, feel oneself, it is necessary to perceive in this one already realized, at least partially, victory over selfhood.

Archpriest Pavel Florensky

When there is no friendship, then we reproach others for our good deeds, exalt them even with all their insignificance. And when there is friendship, we hide them and want to pass off the great as small, so as not to show that our friend is indebted to us, but that we ourselves are owed to him by the fact that he allowed us to lend him. I know that many do not understand what I am talking about; the reason for this is that I am talking about a thing that now only takes place in Heaven.

Saint John Chrysostom

The King-Prophet in his Psalms builds a bridge from the Old Testament to the New. So his friendship with Jonathan decisively rises above the level of the utilitarian friendship of the Old Testament and anticipates the tragic friendship of the New. The shadow of a deep, hopeless tragedy fell on this Ancestor of Christ; and honest earthly friendship from this shadow has become infinitely deep and infinitely sweet for our heart, which has the Gospel.

Archpriest Pavel Florensky

When I talk about affection or falling in love, everyone understands me. Both of these feelings are praised and glorified beyond all measure. Even those who do not believe in them obey the tradition - otherwise they would not denounce them. But few people now remember that friendship is love. Tristan and Isolde, Antony and Cleopatra, Romeo and Juliet, have thousands of literary correspondences; David and Jonathan, Orestes and Pylades, Roland and Olivier do not have them. In the old days, friendship was considered the most complete and happiest of human relationships. The current world is deprived of it. Of course, everyone will agree that in addition to the family, a man also needs friends. But the very tone will show that this word does not mean at all those about whom Cicero and Aristotle wrote. Friendship for us is entertainment, an almost unnecessary luxury. How did we get here?

C. S. Lewis

There are other forms of love that we must never forget. There is a friendship between them, connecting two people who see each other as a unique personality, the only person who can be contacted by such an attitude. You ask: why then not marriage? Marriage is possible only between people of different sexes, and friendship can embrace people of the same sex, connect them in an indescribable way. And we see this both in the lives of the saints and in the lives of sinners, the most ordinary people, and in paganism, and in the Old Testament. This love-friendship may not be as striking, not as striking in its power, as the love that was revealed to us in God, revealed in the creation of Adam and Eve and their first meeting, but it exists. If you read the Old Testament, you will see that some faces in the Old Testament show us just such glory (for example,). Along the same line, Ruth can be remembered, as she tells Naomi, the mother of her deceased husband, that she will not leave her: Your people will be my people, and your God will be my God (). Other examples can be cited.

But we see similar stories in paganism. AT Ancient Greece there was a story about Philemon and Baucis. They are described to us after a long life in marriage as very, very decrepit people who shine with love, but love without passion, love that does not seek its own, love that gives itself and accepts the other without a trace, love for which the other person is radiance life and joy.

Metropolitan Anthony of Surozh

The mystical unity that opens up in the minds of friends permeates all aspects of their life, enlivens even everyday life. From this it follows that even in the realm of simple co-operation, simply partnership, the Friend becomes a value greater in value than the latter is empirically worth. The help of a Friend takes on a mysterious and cherished connotation; the profit from it becomes sacred. The empirical friendship outgrows itself, rests against the sky and grows its roots into the earthly, lower-empirical bowels. Maybe - and it can’t be, but of course - this is precisely the reason for the persistence with which both ancient and new, Christians, Jews, and pagans - praised friendship in its utilitarian, educational and worldly moment.

Archpriest Pavel Florensky

The well-known myth of Castor and Pollux comes to mind as a kind of pre-Christian model of friendship. Pollux (or Pollux), who did not want to endure the death of his friend and brother Castor, who died in battle, asked Zeus to send him death. But Zeus graciously allowed him to give his brother half of his immortality, and since then the brothers-friends spent one day in the underworld of the dead, and the other on the sunny Olympus. Isn't the languor of the pagan world, a vague foreboding of heaven and hell, not felt in this legend? In premonitions, only shadows of the spirit can be found, but the shadows disappear when the sun of Christ rises.

Priest Vladimir Zelinsky

The main, deepest thought of Antiquity and the Middle Ages was the departure from the material world. Nature, feeling, the body were considered dangerous for the spirit, they were feared or abhorred. Attachment and falling in love too clearly liken us to animals. When you experience them, your breath catches or your chest burns. The bright, calm, reasonable world of freely chosen friendship alienates us from nature. Friendship is the only kind of love that makes us like gods or angels.

C. S. Lewis

When we unite with each other through non-enviousness, simplicity, love, peace and joy, considering the prosperity of our neighbor as our own acquisition, as well as recognizing weaknesses, shortcomings, and sorrows as our own loss, then we will be able to fulfill the law of Christ. This is truly an angelic life!

About the choice of friends, the object of friendship and its illnesses

Let there be many who live with you in peace, and let one of a thousand be your adviser. If you want to win a friend, win him after a trial and do not trust him quickly.

Do not make friends with an angry person and do not associate with a quick-tempered person, lest you learn his ways and bring nooses on your soul.

And that day Pilate and Herod became friends with each other, for before they had been at enmity with each other.

Christ can truly say to every circle of friends, "You did not choose one another, but I chose you for one another." Friendship is not a reward for mind or taste, but an instrument of God, with its help the Lord reveals to us the beauty of another person. This person is not better than hundreds others, but we saw him. Like everything good, this beauty is from God, and therefore in good friendship He will increase it. The Lord, and not we, calls our guests together and, let us hope, rules our friendly feast. In any case, that's how it should be. Let's not decide anything without the Master.

C. S. Lewis

Friends are also a manifestation of God's care for us. The Lord shows that we are not alone in this after all. ruthless world and therefore true friendship is indeed a treasure. In life, it often happens that family ties between brothers and sisters are strong while the parents are alive. When they are no longer there, relatives forget each other, and it is friendships that often become stronger bonds.

V. N. Dukhanin

There is no word for "brother" in Chinese. But there are two different words meaning "big brother" and "little brother". And it's fair. Because when I say that I have a brother, there is always a clarifying question: older or younger?

Vladyka Anthony says: “When brotherly love is offered to me, I ask myself: what kind of brother are you - Cain or Abel?” Throughout human history, brotherly love has been corrupted by fratricidal birthright struggles. Brotherhood, it seems, is doomed to the fact that among the brothers there will always be an elder.

It is impossible to say: an older friend or a younger friend - either a friend or not.

D. Yu. Strotsev

Friends are dearer than fathers and sons - friends in Christ.

Saint John Chrysostom

The holy fathers repeatedly repeat the idea of ​​necessity, along with universal love - αγάπη (agapi. - Note. red), and solitary friendship - φιλία (philia. - Note. ed). As much as the first should treat everyone, regardless of all his filth, so the second should be prudent in choosing a friend. After all, you grow together with a friend, you take a friend, together with his qualities, into yourself; so that both do not perish, careful selection is needed here.

Archpriest Pavel Florensky

No acquisition is better than a friend; but never make a bad man your friend.

Like those about to embark on the sea, I sit by myself, looking into the future. For sailors need winds to sail safely, and we need a man to guide us and ferry us safely over the salty waves of life. Actually, for me, as I argue, we need, firstly, a bridle for youth and then motivation in the field of piety. And this can deliver such a mind that either holds back what is disorderly in me, or excites what is slow in the soul.

Saint Basil the Great

With whom you treat longer, you see more experience from that; and where there is more experience, there the testimony is more perfect. If there is anything useful for me in life, it is your friendship and treatment with you.

Saint Gregory the Theologian

God has filled people with various gifts. Just as a person sees someone else's depravity, depravity, he can see someone else's virtue - and imitate it.

Relations between people are determined by their belonging or not belonging to each other. Lovers give themselves to another, agree on mutual belonging. The members of one family belong to the family, and therefore the relations within the family are different from those with external people. Those with whom we are not connected by a common affiliation turn out to be strangers to us.

The phenomenon of friendship lies in the fact that it binds us in spite of the principle of belonging. She binds two without vows of belonging. She brings a guest to the family, and he is accepted as a family member. She helps the brothers meet when they suddenly forget about the rivalry.

D. Yu. Strotsev

In love, the distinction of sex is essential; for friendship, it is not decisive; Friendship occurs most naturally within the same sex. There can be many love hobbies, but true love is only one, so there are many friendships, friendships, but there is only one true friend.

Archpriest Sergei Bulgakov

Can every Christian be our friend? As an answer, I will give an analogy, although not very accurate, but helping to understand: not every man can become a husband for a woman, and not every woman can become a wife for a man. People become husband and wife only when certain relations are established between them, based on their inner closeness, on their, perhaps not always similarity, but consonance with each other. Friendship is, of course, not family life, not marriage, but nevertheless something somewhat akin to this. For the emergence of friendship, there must also be some kind of internal consonance, the closeness of interests. Just as marriage has its own story of love and the relationship between husband and wife, so friendship always has a story. If a person peers into the history of his relationship with a friend, he will understand that this is the way it really is. There are moments of rapprochement and delight from each other, there are moments of rejection, moments when people disperse, and then converge again and become even closer and more dear to each other. People together experience something, overcome. Friendship is such an amazing and wonderful phenomenon that you won’t find words to fully explain what it is.

Hegumen Nektary (Morozov)

If someone asked me: what is the best thing in life? - would answer: friends. Which of them should be more respected? I would answer: good.

Saint Gregory the Theologian

Smooth is that friend who nourishes the soul.

First test your friends with a test and do not make everyone close to yourself, do not entrust yourself to everyone; because the world is full of wickedness. But choose for yourself one brother who fears the Lord, and be friends with him as brother with brother. And best of all, cleave to God as a son to his father; for people have all gone into wickedness, except for a few. The earth is full of vanity, troubles and sorrows.

We must love every person from the heart, but put our hope in God alone and serve Him alone with all strength. For as long as He keeps us, then all our friends favor us, and our enemies are not strong enough to do us harm. And when He leaves us, then all friends turn away from us, and enemies all take power over us. The friends of Christ love everyone sincerely, but they are not loved by everyone. But worldly friends do not love everyone, and are not loved by everyone. The friends of Christ preserve the union of love to the end, and the friends of the world - until they meet each other for something worldly.

And the thrones are shaky, and friends for the most part come only with time. But if they are permanent, then it is better to submit to God than to have primacy in everything visible or to stand above everything visible.

Saint Gregory the Theologian

Surely each of us in life had and periodically appear people who call themselves our friends. But at the same time, they do such things that we would like to reduce communication with them to a minimum. And not because they are unpleasant, not because they give rise to anger, condemnation - no. The fact is that communication with them is sometimes unsafe, not harmless. And by and large - in vain. At the same time, many of us in life have people who do not consider themselves to be our friends even nominally, but who are really friends with us, and we are friends with them too. And our relationship with them sometimes resembles the relationship of native people. And there is no need to designate these relations somehow.

Hegumen Nektary (Morozov)

Let us run away from hatred and strife. He who is in friendship with the infected with hatred and quarrelsome, he is in friendship with the beast of prey. Indeed, one who trusts himself to a beast is safer than one who trusts himself to a quarrelsome and infected with hatred. He who does not turn away from quarrelsomeness and does not disdain it will not spare any of the people, even his friends.

Death dwells in one whose tongue is a double-edged sword. Such entered into an alliance with eternal death and prepared for himself destruction and a habitation in hell: he shall have no inheritance in the land of the living, who do the will of God. Consider and you will find that a bilingual person destroys his soul, confuses acquaintances and friends, upsets society, contributes to the commission of all evil and takes part in it, constantly plots intrigues on his neighbor. Move away, beloved brethren, from the bilingual, do not enter into friendship with him in any way: he who entered into friendship with him at the same time submitted to death.

Venerable Anthony the Great

Don't make friends with anyone until you know if it's true kind person, and not the hypocrite that you want to know, otherwise you will repent and regret later, but it will be too late. Many wolves in sheep's clothing walk: By their fruits, says the Lord, you will know them ().

Let us lead both in word and in our life, have Christ, the Word, Who is above every word. Do not make friends with a vicious and worthless person: the infection penetrates even into strong members. You will not communicate your virtue to a friend, and the shame of his life will fall on you too.

Saint Gregory the Theologian

But if someone's friendship harms you, reject it from yourself. If we often cut off one or another of our members when they are terminally ill and harm others, then the same should be done in relation to the soul. Nothing is more harmful than a bad community. What necessity cannot do, friendship can often do both for harm and for good. Whoever makes friends with the king's enemies cannot be a friend of the king.

Saint John Chrysostom

When ex-spouses come to a priest and begin to grieve about what they have lost, the question is natural: how did a marriage that broke up arise? If you analyze the situation, it always turns out that there was something wrong at its basis. The same is with friendship. If at some point a person whom we considered a friend suddenly ceased to be a friend to us, then most likely this happened because of ourselves. Most likely, out of some inner self-interest, not material, but spiritual, we preferred to consider this person a friend when he was not this friend. We deliberately closed our eyes to something, and then life put everything in its place.

Hegumen Nektary (Morozov)

All those around us are our friends. Those who share something special with us are our friends. As Emerson said, in this kind of love the question is: "Do you love me?" means: "Do you see the same truth?" or at least: “Is the same truth important to you?” A person who understands, as we do, that some question is important, can become our friend, even if he answers it differently. That's why touchy people who want to "make friends" never get them. Friendship is possible only when something is more important to us than friendship. If a person answers that question: “Yes, I spat on the truth! I need a friend”, he can only achieve affection. There is “nothing to be friends about” here, and friendship is always “about something”, even if it was dominoes or an interest in white mice.

C. S. Lewis

And when I call someone friends, I mean beautiful, kind people, connected with me by the bonds of virtue, because I myself strive for virtue.

Saint Gregory the Theologian

Unlike lovers, friends do not look at each other. Yes, they are looking at something third, but this does not mean that they do not see each other and do not love. Friendship is the very environment where mutual love and mutual knowledge flourish. We don't know anyone as well as our friends. Each step along the joint path verifies friendship, and this verification is understandable to us, it is conscious, we participate in it. Our respect for each other is transformed, when the hour comes, into exceptionally sighted and strong love-admiration. If from the very beginning we looked more at the person, less at the subject of friendship, we would not know so well, would not love so deeply the one with whom we made friends. We will not find a poet, a thinker, a warrior, a Christian, if we admire him as a beloved. It is better to read with him, argue with him, fight, pray.

C. S. Lewis

Now, if you start reading the Gospel together in this way, then, as the Scripture says, brother strengthened by brother - like Mount Zion, will not move forever (). The support of like-minded people, the support of friends, the support of people who are on the same path with you to the Kingdom of God, can be of great help, and you should not refuse it. This means that it is worth reading the Gospel one by one and lovingly sharing your understanding with everyone and drawing strength from this communication to live.

Metropolitan Anthony of Surozh

There is nothing more precious and desirable than a man who rejoices in your happiness as if it were his own, and takes part in misfortune as if he himself suffered. But friendship must be based on virtue. For a friendship based on passion and begun with a bad intention is not friendship, but a combination of malice and a conspiracy. So, for example, Pilate and Herod were in a constant quarrel, but, having agreed to kill the innocent Jesus, they reconciled. In order for an honest peace of friendship to be firm, equality in property and honor is necessary, that is, one must have as much, at least, care for the benefit and honor of his friend as for his own, and if this does not happen, then friendship will soon collapse and will only be hypocritical. And therefore, we must be careful that, under the guise of friendship, cunning people do not turn our good-heartedness to their advantage, and to our detriment. For, according to the apostolic word, there are troubles between false brothers (). And among the apostles was Judas the traitor. If sincerely brother helps brother, they will stand firm. Friendship does not consist in food and drink, such as robbers and murderers have. But if we are really friends, if we truly care for each other, and help each other in everything, this friendship is for the good, it helps us not to go to hell.

The crowd is never completely right, nor is it completely wrong. It is not at all true that people enter into friendship only for the sake of arrogance. But arrogance really threatens all friendship. The most spiritual love is subject to spiritual danger. If you like, friendship makes us like Angels; but in order to eat the angel's bread, a person needs a triple veil of humility.

C. S. Lewis

Of course, wrong friendship is also possible, as well as wrong love, which does not expand, but closes the heart in selfish self-affirmation, pride in a friend as one's own property; when it becomes only selfishness together, love, like friendship, loses its wings and turns into the fetters of philistinism: every feeling has its wrong side.

Friendship, like love, has its dangers and temptations and needs asceticism and deeds - no spiritual achievement is given for free. Friendship can naturally degenerate into hatred or enmity - negative exclusivity, fire without light; but at the same time, the Wahlverwandtschaft (kinship of souls. - Approx. ed.) is preserved, excluding indifference and indifference.

Archpriest Sergei Bulgakov

We sometimes make a very big mistake, believing that a friend for us can only be someone who will always understand us, from whom we will always find comfort, that a friend will always be for us that shoulder on which we can lean. We demand too much from a person! If we ourselves manage to always understand everyone, if we ourselves manage to put our shoulder and even our back in order to put someone on it and carry it, - even if this is so, this does not mean that the person who is next to us, whom we also consider a friend, also capable of it. Or it could be otherwise: he is capable, we are not ...

Hegumen Nektary (Morozov)

The absence of friends or the unwillingness of friendship is often associated with selfishness, such a person is focused only on himself, he no longer needs anyone else.

V. N. Dukhanin

Take heed to yourself, is it not in yourself, and not in your brother, that evil lies, which separates you from your brother; and make haste to be reconciled to him, lest you fall away from the commandment of love.

One layman once wrote to St. Barsanuphius the Great: “I have a friend, but it seems to me that he has grown cold towards me; our friendship is over." The monk answered him: “Look into your heart and ask yourself: have you grown cold towards it yourself? If you have not cooled off, then your friendship is alive, and if you have cooled off, then, obviously, the friendship has ended too. Dried up like a dried-up spring.

Let me return to the analogy between friendship and marriage. Family life is full-fledged only when there is a certain mutual process - knowledge, learning. The process of self-education - in the first place, and education loved one- in the second. This is a creative process. It's the same with friendship. Like love, it can turn from a small stream into a full-flowing river. But it can also turn from a full-flowing river into a stream. Everything depends on ourselves. As soon as the pebbles begin to gather in the channel, they narrow it. It needs to be cleaned regularly.

Hegumen Nektary (Morozov)

Love between friends is destroyed: if you envy or become an object of envy; if you cause or suffer damage; if you dishonor or suffer dishonor, and finally, if you harbor and hold suspicion on your brother. So, have you not done or suffered from any such thing, and for this you retreat from love more amicably?

In Pushkin's play we have not a historical drama based on a dark biographical episode, but a symbolic tragedy; Pushkin used the figures of two composers to embody in them the images crowded in his creative mind. The true theme of his tragedy is not music, not art, and not even creativity, but the very life of creators and, moreover, not Mozart or Salieri, but Mozart and Salieri. Here this mysterious, eternal, “written in heaven” itself is subjected to artistic analysis. And, connecting friends with an inseparable union and giving it exceptional mutual significance, this is the mysterious and wonderful dual unity of friendship, the duality it realizes. In a word, "Mozart and Salieri" is a tragedy about friendship, but its deliberate name is "Envy", as Pushkin originally called it.

Envy is precisely the disease of friendship, just as Othello's jealousy is the disease of love. Artistically exploring the nature of friendship, Pushkin takes it not in health, but in illness, because in a diseased state the nature of things often manifests itself more clearly.

Archpriest Sergei Bulgakov

When your friend, considering the good reputation of your deeds a humiliation for himself, is stung by envy and even thinks of darkening it with some reproach, be careful not to be hurt yourself, allowing the bitter poison of grief to pour into your soul. That's what Satan cares about, to kindle him with envy, and eat you up with grief.

There is a passion that warns friendship - which in the twinkling of an eye can break the most sacred attachments. This passion is anger. He is what friends should be afraid of most of all.

Archpriest Pavel Florensky

And just as rust in wheat is an aphid that originates in the wheat itself, so almost the caress that creeps into friendship is destructive to friendship itself.

Saint Basil the Great

Friendship is not friendship, but worse than enmity, if it only manifests outwardly, but has no place in the heart.

Saint Tikhon of Zadonsk

There are many friends, but in times of prosperity, in times of temptation, you can hardly find even one.

Saint Maxim the Confessor

Leave not an old friend, for a new one cannot be compared with him; A new friend is like new wine: when it becomes old, you will drink it with pleasure.

This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you. There is no greater love than if a man lays down his life for his friends.

Do not regret anything for a faithful friend who has shown himself not over a cup, but in turbulent times, who does nothing to please you, except for useful things. Know the limits of enmity, not favor.

Saint Gregory the Theologian

We must honor and love ourselves and each other in the same way as Christ Himself first showed by His example, deigning to suffer for us.

Saint Maxim the Confessor

What is shorter than this command of mercy: be such to friends and neighbors as you wish to have them to yourself? But there is something else, and this is shorter - these are the sufferings of Christ.

Saint Gregory the Theologian

Many will tell me that without friendship a person cannot survive. They do not mean a friend, but a helper, an ally. Of course, a friend, if necessary, will give us money, come out when we are sick, protect us from enemies, help our widow and children. But that's not what friendship is about. It's more of a hindrance. In one sense these matters are very important, in another they are unimportant. They are important, for whoever does not make them will be a false friend. They are unimportant, because the role of the benefactor is accidental in friendship, even alien to it. Friendship is completely free from the "need to be needed". We are very sorry that this opportunity presented itself to help, because it means that a friend was in trouble, and now, for God's sake, let's forget about it and do something worthwhile! Gratitude itself is not necessary for friendship. The usual phrase: “Yes, what is there to talk about! ..” - expresses our true feelings. The sign of true friendship is not that a friend helps, but that nothing will change from this. Help distracts, interferes, it takes time, which friends always lack. We only have two hours, and a whole twenty minutes had to be spent on the "case"!

C. S. Lewis

Friendship is not a service, no thanks for it.

G. R. Derzhavin

A true friend is the one with whom we are ourselves, with whom we behave simply and naturally, without taking on some pompous role, without hiding our weaknesses and shortcomings.

A true friend is one whose criticism we are not afraid to accept because we know it will stay between us.

V. N. Dukhanin

Do not hurt your brother with hints, so that you don’t get the same from him, and by that you don’t expel the disposition of love from both: but go with love and rebuke him (), in order to eliminate the causes of grief, and save yourself and him from anxiety and annoyance.

Saint Maxim the Confessor

It is more natural for a generous person to accept free speeches from friends than flattery from enemies.

Saint Gregory the Theologian

A friend differs especially from a flatterer in that one talks for pleasure, while the other does not hold back from what can upset.

Saint Basil the Great

So don't grumble at my words. And I would say about the one who loves me, that not when he only praises me, but when he rebukes me with the aim of correcting me, then he especially loves me. To praise everything indiscriminately: good and bad - is characteristic not of a friend, but of a flatterer and a mocker; on the contrary, it is the duty of a friend and well-wisher to praise for a good deed and reproach for an offense. So, the enemy is unpleasant to me and when he praises me; but a friend is also pleasant when he reproaches me. He, though he kisses me, is disgusting; this one, although it hurts me, is kind. Sincere, - they say, - reproaches from a lover, and false kisses of a hater (). One, whether he reproaches rightly or wrongly, does it not to shame, but to correct; the other, even though he justly reproached, reproaches not in order to correct, but rather trying to dishonor.

St. John Chrysostom

A friend who reproves in secret is a wise physician, but he who heals before the eyes of many is a scoffer.

And I will say the same to your learning that, they say, someone wrote to his friend: “Such and such, if he did nothing wrong, forgive for the sake of the truth itself, and if he did, forgive for the sake of our friendship.”

Saint Gregory the Theologian

The Lord does not say: give, or offer, or do good, or help; no. He says get a friend. But a friend can be acquired not by one-time generosity, but by long-term communication. Therefore, it is not faith, not love, not the patience of a single day that will be saved, no; but endured to the end ().

You were tempted by your brother, and grief brought you to hatred, do not be overcome by hatred, but overcome hatred with love. You can overcome it this way: by sincerely praying to God for him, accepting the apology offered by your brother, or by healing yourself with his apology, placing yourself as the culprit of the temptation and putting yourself to endure until the cloud passes.

Saint Maxim the Confessor

The limit of love is the multiplication of friendly disposition towards those who offend and vilify.

Blessed Diadoch

A rational soul that harbors hatred for a person cannot be at peace with God, who gave us such a commandment: if you do not forgive people their sins, then your Father will not forgive you your sins (). Let the brother not want peace, but you save yourself from enmity by sincerely praying for him and not slandering him before anyone.

Saint Maxim the Confessor

Sometimes a situation may arise when we are difficult for our friend. Or it becomes difficult for us, because it has suddenly changed - and not for the better. What to do with it? Just endure, without saying anything to a person, or say about it? I think that if a person is close, dear to us, then it is necessary to tell him about his feelings, about his anxiety, because except us, most likely, no one will tell him about it. And we are precisely those who can stop him, who can give him an impulse to reverse movement, to return to himself. This can happen through conflict, through a painful explanation, and not the only one. Naturally, we must strive to find that form of expression that will be optimal, which our love for a person will tell us. It is love, and not the desire to say what we are dissatisfied with, because it is we who are dissatisfied and what is happening is unpleasant for us. If you put caring for your friend in the first place, then everything will most likely work out. But if we see that we are knocking on a tightly locked door, then we need to step back, not to talk about anything else, but simply to endure the person as he is. Eventually, you will be able to endure. Can friendship break down? Maybe. After all, we were friends with one person, and now we have a completely different one in front of us. And here it is the same as with love: if we see that a person wants to return to us, then we must not let the feeling that lived in it die in our heart.

Hegumen Nektary (Morozov)

All suspicion should be removed from friendship, and one should speak to a friend as if to another oneself.

The friend must have the highest trust and the highest forgiveness. When you hear a word against your friend, ask your friend, maybe he didn’t do it; and if he did, then let him not do it ahead. Ask a friend, maybe he didn't say that; and if he said, then let him not repeat it. Ask a friend, for there is often slander. Believe not every word (). The highest trust that can be placed in a person is - despite the bad judgments about him, despite the obvious facts that testify against him, despite all the reality that speaks against him - still believe in him, that is, take only the judgment his own conscience, his own words. And the highest forgiveness is to, having accepted this, behave as if nothing had happened, to forget about what happened. Such trust and such forgiveness must be given to a friend.

Archpriest Pavel Florensky

He does not yet have dispassion who, in the event of temptation, cannot ignore the error of a friend, whether it really is behind him, or only it seems that there is. For the passions hidden in the soul of such a person, being aroused, blind the mind and do not allow one to see the rays of truth and distinguish between good and bad. Should it not be assumed that such a person has not yet acquired perfect love, which casts out the fear of judgment (See:).

Saint Maxim the Confessor

Love is the ability to give everything you have, and yourself, the ability to accept another in his otherness, as he is, reverently, reverently, joyfully, and the ability to also lay down life for friends, to live sacrificially.

Metropolitan Anthony of Surozh

The one who looks at a friend is enlightened with joy, melts with pleasure and unites with him in his soul by some special union, which contains inexpressible pleasure. He comes to life in spirit and takes wings even at the mere recollection of him. I'm talking about sincere, unanimous friends, ready to die for each other, passionately loving each other. Do not think to refute my words by imagining ordinary friends, accomplices at the table, friends by the same name. Whoever has such a friend as I speak of will understand my words. Even if he sees him (friend) every day, he will not be fed up; he wishes for him the same as for himself. I knew one man who, calling in prayer for a friend of the holy men of God, begged them to intercede first for him, and then for himself.

Saint John Chrysostom

The essence of friendship is precisely in the destruction of one's soul for the sake of one's friend. It is a sacrifice by the structure of its entire organization, by its freedom, by its vocation. Whoever wants to save his soul must lay it all down for his friends; and she will not live unless she dies.

Archpriest Pavel Florensky

This is how a true lover must love. He will not refuse even his soul, if it were demanded of him and if it were possible. But what am I saying: demanded? He himself will volunteer for such a donation. Nothing, truly nothing, can be sweeter than such love. For her, nothing is unfortunate. A true friend is truly the delight of life. A true friend is truly a hard cover.

Saint John Chrysostom

Friendship is about being loyal, friendship is about being ready, if your friend is slandered, persecuted or persecuted, stand up and say: "I'm with him!" Are we ready for it? In good moments of life, we say: yes, we are ready, but can we say without serious reflection that this is our choice?

Metropolitan Anthony of Surozh

Loyalty to the friendship once established, the indissolubility of friendship, strict, like the indissolubility of marriage, firmness to the end, to the “blood of martyrdom” - such is the main covenant of friendship, and in observing it lies all its strength. There are many temptations to give up on a Friend, many temptations to remain alone or enter into a new relationship. But whoever breaks one will break both others and thirds, because the path of achievement is replaced by the desire for spiritual comfort; and the latter will not be achieved, cannot and should not be achieved by any kind of friendship. On the contrary, each completed feat gives strength to friendship. As when laying walls, the more water is poured on a brick, the stronger the wall, so from tears shed because of friendship, it only becomes stronger.

Archpriest Pavel Florensky

Friendship is mutual fidelity, readiness for your friend and life to give, if necessary. To be friends means to seek to be like a friend, to be in harmony with him in everything and all the time.

Metropolitan Anthony of Surozh

And the lot fell to you for sorrows and deeds for me, and this serves as proof of a courageous soul. For God, who disposes of our affairs to those who are able to endure great struggles, delivers more important cases for glorification. Therefore, you also left your life, like a crucible for gold, to test your virtue in relation to friends. And I pray to God that others become better, and that you remain like yourself and do not stop accusing of similar things to what you now accused, putting the scarcity of my letters in the greatest offense. For this is the accusation of a friend; and you continue to demand such debts from me, because I am not some kind of uncalculated debtor of friendship.

Saint Basil the Great

We often talk about love in Christ, but we are not always ready to answer for this word. Meanwhile, love, like friendship, carries the beginning of the highest responsibility, including responsibility for someone else's soul.

Priest Vladimir Zelinsky

I will return a friend to carry betrayal (replacement) (See:): he considers his friend’s misfortunes to be his own and lifts them up with him, suffering even to death.

Saint Maxim the Confessor

And the power and difficulty of service is not in the fireworks-flashing feat of a minute, but in the invariably-glowing patience of life. This is a silent flame of oil, not an explosion of gas. Heroism is always only an adornment, not the essence of life, and, as an adornment, it certainly has its rightful share of panache. But, taking the place of life, he inevitably degenerates into make-up, into a more or less believable pose. The most direct heroism is in friendship, in its pathos; but here, too, heroism is only the flower of friendship, and not its stem or root. The heroic squanders, not gathers; it always lives at the expense of the other, it feeds on the juices obtained by worldliness. Here, in the darkness of worldliness, the finest and most tender roots of friendship are hidden, extracting true life and not visible to anyone's eyes, sometimes not even suspected by anyone ...

After all, φιλία (“philia” - love, friendship. - Ed.) knows a friend not by outward appearance, not by the dress of heroism, but by his smile, by his quiet speeches, by his weaknesses, by the way he treats people in a simple, human life - by the way he eats and sleeps. You can rhetorically speak speeches - and deceive. You can suffer rhetorically, you can even die rhetorically and - deceive with your rhetoric. But you can't cheat everyday life, and a true test of the authenticity of the soul - through life together, in friendly love. Anyone can perform this or that act of heroism; anyone can be interesting; but so smile, so to speak, so comfort, as my friend does, only he can, and no one else. Yes, no one and nothing in the world will compensate me for losing him.

Archpriest Pavel Florensky

Washing the feet is not a heroic act at all, it is a gesture of a servant, the daily work of a slave meeting his master. Christ fulfills His own commandment: Let the greatest of you be your servant (). Washing the feet is the highest expression of friendship as an election: You did not choose me, but I chose you ... (See:).

Priest Vladimir Zelinsky

Every person, of course, wants to be happy. Nobody wants to suffer, but one wants to be compassionate, and since one cannot be compassionate without being sad, isn't this the only reason why sadness is kind? Compassion flows from the source of friendship.

Grieve with your brother and show him good concern.

Venerable Anthony the Great

What is unfortunate for you is, of course, unfortunate for me, because, as the rules of friendship require, we make common everything that our friends have, whether it is good or bad.

Saint Gregory the Theologian

When I meet a person, I immediately try to understand, to find out if he has friends. And if so, what are they, and if not, why not? From the knowledge of this, I add up for myself the initial impression of a new acquaintance. Of course, the absence of friends can indicate certain circumstances in life, sometimes very difficult. But often the absence of friends is a sign that people are not very interesting to a person, or he is not ready to sacrifice anything, because he is closed in on himself, selfish. Having friends is a natural thing for a person. And when they say that, they say, there are no friends, but the reason for this is that only bad people meet on the way, but there are no good ones, this is alarming. The reason for the lack of friends lies in the person himself. And how many friends a person has, what they are, is largely based on what he is.

Hegumen Nektary (Morozov)

Friends love and what is loved by friends.

Saint Gregory the Theologian

A friend is so sweet that even places and times become kind from him. Just as bright bodies shed light on the surrounding objects, so friends communicate their pleasantness to the very places where they happened to be.

Saint John Chrysostom

You and I have everything in common - both sorrows and joys: such is the property of friendship.

Saint Gregory the Theologian

Do not be surprised if I call what belongs to my friends, having learned, above all other virtues, and friendship, and remembering the wise saying that a friend is another “I”. So, I entrust an estate that is significant for a friend to your honour, as my own.

Saint Basil the Great

Such is the law of friendship, according to which everything is done for them (friends) as a common property!

Saint Gregory the Theologian

A friend is another "me"

Jonathan made an alliance with David, for he loved him as his own soul.

But Ruth said: do not force me to leave you and return from you; but wherever you go, there I will go, and where you live, there I will also live; let your people be my people, and your God my God, and where you die, there I will die and be buried ... death alone will separate me from you.

For it is not the enemy who reviles me, I would endure it; it is not my hater who magnifies himself over me - I would hide from him; but you, who were for me the same as me, my friend and my relative, with whom we shared sincere conversations and went together to the house of God.

A friend is your “second self”, alter ego, as they said in ancient times, a person who you can look at and see yourself reflected in him, but pure, sanctified, see your beauty in him, as if reflected in a mirror of loving eyes, loving heart.

Metropolitan Anthony of Surozh

In friendship relations, the irreplaceable and incomparable value and uniqueness of each personality is revealed in all its beauty. In the other "I" the personality of one reveals its inclinations, spiritually fertilized by the personality of the other. According to Plato, the lover gives birth in the beloved. Each of the friends receives affirmation for his personality, finding his "I" in the "I" of the other. “He who has a friend,” says Chrysostom, “has another self.” “Beloved for the lover,” says St. Father in another place - the same as he himself. The property of love is such that the lover and the beloved no longer constitute, as it were, two separate persons, but one person.

Archpriest Pavel Florensky

About love we know little by experience. We know the feeling of love, but we cannot know the absolute love that we see in the Holy Trinity and in the relationship of God to the world created and created by Him. Remember what the Savior Christ says about love: There is no greater love than if someone lays down his life for his friends (). This says something amazing! After all, the Son of God gives His life up to and including death for us, the Father gives His Son to death for us.

There is also something deeply moving in these words. If we apply the words of the Gospel not to our ordinary life, not to how we should relate to each other, but to how God relates to the world He created and, in particular, to man who has fallen away from Him, we see that He calls friends. And it's hard for us dear person know as a friend in the full sense of the word. “Friend” after all means “another me”, it is “I” in another person.

You probably remember the story at the beginning of the Book of Genesis about how Eve was created (See:). When Adam came out of the mysterious sleep into which God plunged him, and found himself face to face with Eve, he looked at her and uttered words that are difficult to translate, but they tell us that Adam saw himself in Eve, as if in feminine. In Hebrew, the words "ish" and "isha" are used, he and she, I and you. It's not a name, it's a definition of a relationship. And friendship is just that: a definition of mutual relations, where, whatever the inequality in other senses, absolute equality is established in the sacrament of mutual acceptance and mutual knowledge.

Metropolitan Anthony of Surozh

Acceptance into the soul of a friendly "I" merges two separate streams of life. This vital unity is obtained not as the enslavement of one personality by another, and not even as the conscious slavery of one personality to another. Friendly unity cannot also be called concession, compliance. This is precisely unity. One feels, desires, thinks and speaks, not because the other said, thought, desired or felt it, but because both of them feel - into one feeling, desire - into one will, think - into one thought, they say - in one vote.

Archpriest Pavel Florensky

Well someone said about his friend: "half of my soul." And I felt that my soul and his soul were one soul in two bodies.

Blessed Augustine Aurelius

What is friendship? - Contemplation of the Self through the Friend in God.

Friendship is a vision of oneself through the eyes of another, but in the face of a third, and precisely the Third.

Archpriest Pavel Florensky

What is friendship, not in its psychology, but in its ontology? Is it not an exit from oneself into another (friend) and finding oneself in him, some actualization of duality and, consequently, overcoming the limitations of self-denial? Doesn't one see in a friend what is desired and loved higher and better than one's self, and isn't this “contemplation of oneself through a friend in God”?

Archpriest Sergei Bulgakov

Friendship is the genius of life, and the capacity for friendship is the talent of this genius. Also, although in a different sense, the ability to love makes the loving seer of the eternal, sophianic face of the beloved person and reveals to an ordinary person what is comprehensible only to an artistic genius in the highest tensions of creativity.

Archpriest Sergei Bulgakov

In friendship, the revelation of personality begins, and therefore here begins both real, deep sin and real, deep holiness. One can tell great lies about oneself in many volumes of writings; but it is impossible to utter even the slightest thing in life communication with a friend: As in water the face is to the face, so the heart of a person is to a person ().

Archpriest Pavel Florensky

Every external seeks mine, not me; the friend does not want mine; but me. And the apostle writes: I am not looking for yours, but you ... (). The outer covets "the case", and the friend - "himself" me. The external desires yours, receives from you, from the fullness, that is, a part, and this part melts in your hands like foam. Only a friend, desiring you, whatever you are, receives everything in you, fullness and becomes richer in it.

Archpriest Pavel Florensky

Those who see in friendship only hidden love prove that they never had friends. Besides them, everyone knows from experience that friendship and falling in love are not at all similar, although they can be experienced for the same person. Lovers talk about their love all the time; friends almost never talk about friendship. The lovers look at each other; friends - for something third, than both are busy. Finally, love, while she is alive, connects only two. Friendship is not limited to two, three of us are even better friends, and here's why.

Lam says somewhere that when A dies, B loses not only A himself, but also "his share of C" and C "his share of B". There is something in every friend that only a third friend makes possible. I myself am not wide enough; my light is not enough to play all the facets of his soul. Friendship knows almost no jealousy. Two friends are happy that they found a third, three - that they found a fourth, if he is really a friend. They are glad for him, as the blessed souls of Dante are glad for the stranger.

Of course, there are few similar people (not to mention the fact that there are no such large rooms on earth), but ideally, friendship can connect as many friends as you like. In this way, she is “close in similarity” to paradise, where everyone sees God in his own way and informs everyone else about it. Seraphim in Isaiah cry to each other: Holy, holy, holy! .. (). Friendship is the multiplication of loaves; the more you eat, the more you have left.

C. S. Lewis

Friendship gives a person self-knowledge; it reveals where and how to work on oneself. But this transparency of the "I" for itself is achieved only in the vital interaction of loving personalities. "Together" friendship is the source of its strength.

Archpriest Pavel Florensky

Is there anything more captivating in the world of sincere friendship! People begin to live in each other to such an extent that they understand each other perfectly, they know, without asking what they think about anything, every thought of their friend is met as their own, every desire of him is like a native. A person who has made a friend, as it were, doubles his mental life; he lives both in himself and outside himself. He who has acquired two friends triples himself, and so on.

M. O. Menshikov

Thus, beloved, nothing compares to unanimity; and one is equal to many. If, for example, two or ten are unanimous, then one already ceases to be one, and each of them becomes ten times larger, and you will find one in ten, and ten in one. If they have an enemy, he already attacks more than one, and is defeated as if he attacked ten. If one is impoverished, he is not in poverty, because the impoverished part is covered for the most part. Each of them has twenty arms, twenty eyes and the same number of legs; each has ten souls, because he does everything not only with his own members, but also with the rest. If there were a hundred of them, it will be the same again. One and the same can be both in Persia and in Rome - and what nature cannot do, the power of love can. But if he has a thousand or two thousand friends, consider to what extent his strength will increase.

Saint John Chrysostom

The mutual penetration of personalities is a task, not an initial given in friendship. When it is reached, friendship becomes indissoluble by the force of things, and fidelity to the personality of the Friend ceases to be a feat, because it cannot be violated. Until such a higher unity is achieved, fidelity exists and has always been considered by the church consciousness as something necessary not only for the preservation of friendship, but also for the very life of friends. The observance of friendship once begun gives everything, but the violation is a violation not only of friendship, but also endangers the very spiritual existence of the apostate: after all, the souls of friends have already begun to grow together.

Archpriest Pavel Florensky

Such is the power of love; it not only embraces, unites and binds those present, who are close to us and before our eyes, but also far away from us; and neither the duration of time, nor the distance of the roads, nor anything else like it can break and dissolve spiritual friendship.

Saint John Chrysostom

Separation in friendship is only grossly physical, only for sight in the most external sense of the word. That is why, in the stichera on the day of the Three Hierarchs, on January 30, they are sung about them, who lived in different places, as about “divided in body, but united in spirit.”

Archpriest Pavel Florensky

For the people of God, distance does not exist, even if it is thousands of kilometers away. Wherever we are, we are all together. However far away our fellow men may be, we must support them.

The separation of friends strengthens mutual affection.

Worldly friendship needs eyes and a meeting, because this is the beginning of a habit, but those who know how to love spiritually do not resort to the flesh to gain friendship, but through the fellowship of faith they are brought to a spiritual union.

Saint Basil the Great

If one of our mutual friends (and I am sure there are many of them) asks you: “Where is Gregory now? What is he doing?" - boldly answer that he is philosophic in silence, thinking as much about the offenders as about those about whom he does not know if they ever existed. So he is irresistible! And if the same person also asks you: “How does he endure separation from friends?” - then do not boldly answer that you are philosophic, but say that you are very cowardly in this. For everyone has his own weakness: but I am weak in relation to friendship and friends.

Saint Gregory the Theologian

One path leads to the Lord. And all who go to Him accompany each other and observe one condition of life. Therefore, where can I go so that I can be separated from you and not live together, not work together for God, to whom we have resorted together? Although our bodies will be separated by a place, but the eye of God, no doubt, will see both of us together, if only my life is worthy of the eyes of God looking at it, for I read somewhere in the Psalms that the eyes of the Lord are turned on the righteous ( ).

Saint Basil the Great

And this was left to my miserable life - to hear about the death of Vasily, about the departure of the holy soul, by which she moved from us and settled in the Lord, using her whole life to take care of this! And I - inasmuch as I am still sick in body, and extremely dangerously, - above all else, I am also deprived of embracing the sacred ashes, coming to you, who is philosophic, as it should be, and comforting our common friends. For to see the loneliness of the Church, which has lost such glory, laid down such a crown, is unbearable to the eye, and unbearable to the ear, especially for those who have a mind. But you, it seems to me, although you have many friends and words for consolation, cannot be so comforted by anything as by yourself and the remembrance of him. You and him for all others were a model of wisdom and, as it were, what spiritual level of goodness in happy and patience in accidents, because wisdom knows how to do both - to use happiness moderately, and to observe decency in disasters ... And to me, who write this , what time or word will bring consolation, except for your friendship and conversation, which the blessed one left me in return for everything, so that in you, as in a beautiful and transparent mirror, seeing his features, remain in the thought that he is still with us?

Saint Gregory the Theologian

The stunning groans of the 87th psalm break off with a cry - about a friend. There are words for all sorrows, but the loss of a friend and loved one is beyond words: here is the limit of sorrow, here is some kind of moral swoon. Loneliness is a terrible word: "to be without a friend" mysteriously comes into contact with "to be outside of God." Depriving a friend is a kind of death.

Archpriest Pavel Florensky

I used to think that it is the same thing - to live the body without a soul and me without you, beloved Christ's servant Vasily. But I endured the separation and am still alive. How long to delay? Why do you not seduce me henceforth and lead me with you into the rejoicing of the blessed? Don't leave, don't leave me! I swear on my grave that I will never, even if I wanted to, forget about you. Here is Gregory's word!

Saint Gregory the Theologian

When a person leaves our life - just leaves or dies - something happens in our heart. It seems that in our heart there was a site occupied by the departed. And this area seems to die along with the person. If our loved one departs to another world, then this happens to a lesser extent, because he is actually alive, and our prayers, the depth of our faith, if any, help us to feel him. And the part of our heart begins to live in a different way.

But if a person disappears from our life due to the fact that relationships are broken, then a feeling of amputation of a vital organ is created. Then, after some time, the wound can heal and smooth out, the heart can be enriched with something, but all the same, some pain will remain when remembering the lost person. Friendship helps to understand the indispensability of each person, his uniqueness; to see what is initially the area of ​​Divine knowledge, because it was the Lord who created the unique and unrepeatable each of us. And the loss of a friend makes us fully understand this.

Hegumen Nektary (Morozov)

Friends are bound by the closest unity: Another friend is more attached than a brother (See:), and therefore friendship cannot be destroyed by anything, except by what is directed directly against the very unity of friends, which strikes at the heart of a Friend as a Friend - by treachery, a mockery of friendship itself, of its holiness.

Archpriest Pavel Florensky

A dark and terrible prototype of betrayal of Friendship is the black figure of the "son of perdition", a friendly kiss of the betrayed Teacher. In the terrible moment of betrayal, he heard a meek and yet friendly reproach: Friend, what have you done? (Cm.: ). Do you betray the Son of Man with a kiss? (). Just a few hours before, the traitor, as a full-fledged apostle and friend, was present at the Last Supper and, already exposed in his thoughts, nevertheless received “bread”, but Satan entered him with this piece (See:).

Archpriest Sergei Bulgakov

The words you are my friends () - at the Last Supper - sound like a reward and mean the promise of salvation and meeting. From such friendship, Judas cuts himself off of his own free will - for the devil, during the supper, put in his heart the thought of betrayal. It would seem that this is the fault of the devil, but Judas accepted such an investment, offered his heart to him, betraying friendship with Jesus even before he betrayed Him. But Jesus does not renounce even Judas, calling him a friend, eitapos, that is, a companion, a companion. Judas is no longer a friend of Jesus at Passover, but still a friend of Jesus on the road. This word, as it were, leaves him the last chance, which he did not use.

Priest Vladimir Zelinsky

When a person sins against his friend, he experiences fear of him, which turns into hatred. And hate is blinding.

It is hard to suffer, and even harder to suffer from friends. But if friends bite secretly, then this is unbearable; and if they are believers, even more unbearable; and if God's servants, then where to turn then? How to avoid the desire of evil?

It's hard to bear the disappointment. And if a friend offends - it's low. If he bites secretly, it's brutal. And if this is a talkative wife, then you live in the same house with a demon. And if this is a judge, then thunder and lightning are needed. And if you are a clergyman, then you, O Christ, listen and judge pru (See:).

Saint Gregory the Theologian

It happens that people say: well, they spat in my soul, I don’t want it to happen again, because now I will always be alone. There is no need to be afraid that they will spit in your soul - you need to be ready for this. They also spat on the Lord - those who had previously sought His friendship, His help. So why should we be afraid of this? Just when a person is not afraid of this, for him such an outcome is not too painful.

Hegumen Nektary (Morozov)

Friendship is the image of the Kingdom of God

For where two or three are gathered in my name, there I am in the midst of them.

One of those reclining with Him said to Him: Blessed is he who tastes bread in the Kingdom of God! He said to him: A certain man made a great supper and invited many, and when supper time came, he sent his servant to say to those who were invited: go, for everything is ready.

The king, having entered to look at those reclining, saw a man there, dressed not in wedding clothes, and said to him: friend! how did you come in here not in wedding clothes?

In the face of what God has done for us, Who He is in our lives, we owe Him everything without a trace. From Him we have received being, from Him we have received life. They have given us the knowledge of Himself. To our betrayal, repeated and constant, He answers with the incarnation, life, death of His Son, to our constant unfaithfulness He answers with His unshakable fidelity. Everything that we have in life - the body, and the soul, and the mind, and the heart, and the air that we breathe, and the food that we eat, friends and relatives - everything is from Him, we owe everything to Him, we His debtors to the end. He does not require a debt from us - He expects from us reciprocal love and creative, namely creative gratitude. Not just gratitude of heart or memory: “Thank You, Lord!” - but such creative gratitude that would create for the people around us that miracle of the Kingdom of God, the Kingdom of love, mutual care, to which we are all called. And people around us, like that debtor who owes a little to his friend, we "owe" something: they forget us, offend us, humiliate us - whatever they do. But if we throw all this on the scales - and what God represents for us, wondrous, holy, eternal and ready to consider us His daughters and sons, His own children, and everything that God gives us in His indescribable love and generosity, then in comparison with this, everything with which we can be offended by life and people becomes so small! There is no comparison between our "sensitivity", the pain we feel, the humiliation of our pride, and what God is and what God gives.

Metropolitan Anthony of Surozh

The connection between us should be even closer than the closeness that friends show between themselves; it must be a member-to-member relationship. And just as you could not say: from where do I have kinship and intimacy with him? - because it would be funny - so you couldn't say the same about your brother. Let him not be your relative, and not a friend; but he is a man who has the same nature as you, the same Lord, and lives in the same world. In the discussion of money we praise those who owe nothing; in the argument of love, we praise and honor those who always remain indebted. Let us be established in this truth and unite with one another; and if anyone wants to fall away, don't fall away yourself, and don't say these cold words: if you love me, I love him; if the right eye does not love me, then I tear it out. On the contrary, when he does not want to love, then show more love to attract him - he is a member. When, due to some necessity, a member is separated from the rest of the body, we do everything to reunite it with the body, and we show special care for it. And your reward will be greater when you attract someone who does not want to love. If God commands to call those who cannot repay us to the feast, so that the reward will increase, then all the more so should we do so in the argument of friendship. He who, being loved by you, loves in return, already rewards you; he who, being loved, does not love you, makes God your debtor instead of himself.

Saint John Chrysostom

"Two" is not "one and one", but something essentially greater, something essentially more significant and powerful. “Two” is a new connection of the chemistry of the spirit, when “one and one” (“dough”, Proverbs) are qualitatively transformed and form the third (“leavened dough”)…

The gathering of two or three in the Name of Christ, the co-entry of people into the mysterious spiritual atmosphere around Christ, the communion of His grace-filled power transforms them into a new spiritual essence, makes two particles of the Body of Christ, a living embodiment of the Church.

Archpriest Pavel Florensky

One of the ancient manuscripts of the Gospel says that they asked the Savior Christ: when will the Kingdom of Heaven come? And He answered: The Kingdom of Heaven has already come where there are two - not two, but one.

In today's Gospel we read how a man who had been paralyzed for many years was healed by the faith of four of his friends. And the question is often posed: how did the faith of one bring about the healing, the salvation of another? This became possible precisely because only love can unite people into one, and when love has united two, three, many people, then the Kingdom of God has already come, those conditions in which the Lord can freely act, because He is freely accepted by His creation.

Metropolitan Anthony of Surozh

The persons of the Holy Trinity are inseparable and inseparable.

God is love.

Man is created in the image and likeness of God.

By what kind of love is man like God?

What kind of love gathers us inseparably and inseparably?

In our earthly experience, this is, first of all, friendship.

D. B. Strotsev

In Slavic, in Russian, the expression "and the Word was to God" is not clear. But on Greek these words indicate that the Word, which comes from the Father, which is born from the Father, at the same time permeated, burning with love, aspires to the Father Himself. This Word is not closed in itself. The Word does not seek independent existence, It is only love and striving for the Beloved, from Whom it was born. And this is the mystery of the love of the Holy Trinity: love is such that each Person ceases to live for Himself, in Himself, aspires to the Other, is open to the Other.

Metropolitan Anthony of Surozh

It suddenly turns out that some trifle, a smile, a childhood friendship alone is capable of containing the mysterious depth of openness and mutual aspiration of everything to everything: the Creator and creation, man and man, man and all creation, the mysterious significance and inevitability of everything for everything.

D. Yu. Strotsev

The Church has considered and considers life to be so indispensable, so essentially connected with the best in life, that even over the departed we hear Her voice: Behold, what is good, what is red to live the brethren together (See:). At the coffin of one of my loved ones, this sigh of friendship sunk into my heart. Even then, - I thought, - even when all accounts with life are finished, even then I remember - with a burning desire, - oh life together, about the ideal of friendship: there is nothing anymore - there is no life itself! But still there is a longing for friendly communication. Doesn't it follow from here that friendship is the last word of the proper human element of churchness, the pinnacle of humanity? As long as a man remains a man, he seeks friendship.

Archpriest Pavel Florensky

The Kingdom of God expands around us from person to person. They often say: “I can’t love everyone!” Of course you can't! None of us knows how to love ourselves. None of us knows how to truly love even the most beloved, let alone everyone. To love everyone while there is no one is easy, but to love specifically one, another, third person ... Elder Nazarius, hegumen of the Valaam Monastery, said that we are not capable of loving everyone, but we could try to love at least a few for real, that is, forgetting about ourselves, loving them so that they become more important to us than ourselves. This happens. It happens between relatives, it happens between friends, it happens between seemingly strangers.

Metropolitan Anthony of Surozh

Regarding friendship, I will say that it was highly valued both by the ancient peoples and the Holy Scriptures. It has (it seems to me) its degrees, as do faith and love; from a barely smoldering spark to a force capable of moving mountains heaped up by our selfishness and drowning them in a sea of ​​mercy and patience (wearing) the shortcomings of the other self. Passion [love] does not see the shortcomings of the other, therefore (and in many other ways) it is called blind, friendship and love see everything, but cover them and help the friend get rid of them, overcome them, rise from step to step. Friendship has as much an element of love as light has warmth. That is why phileo (Greek) means “to love” and “to be friends”. And in the limit, in the Kingdom of God, both love and friendship disappear or merge into the infinity of God's love, like lamps in the bright sun.

Hegumen Nikon (Vorobiev)

On the Friendship of Man with God

And the Lord spoke to Moses face to face, as one would speak to his friend.

And the word of Scripture was fulfilled: “Abraham believed God, and it was reckoned to him for righteousness, and he was called the friend of God.”

You are My friends if you do what I command you. I no longer call you slaves, for the slave does not know what his master is doing; but I have called you friends because I have told you all that I have heard from my Father. You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you to go and bear fruit, and that your fruit should remain, so that whatever you ask the Father in my name, he will give you. This I command you, that you love one another.

We know only one thing - that the friendship of God and the first man was so strong, so amazing and inseparable, that something absolutely terrible had to happen so that this love and friendship, beyond our human understanding, could be broken.

Archimandrite Tikhon (Shevkunov)

God created man as a friend to Himself. This friendship that exists between us and Him is still deepened, made even closer in our baptism. Each of us is a friend of God, as Lazarus was called, and in each of us this friend of God once lived, lived in friendship with God, lived in the hope that this friendship would deepen, grow, brighten. Sometimes it was in the very early days of our childhood, sometimes later, in our youthful days; in each of us lived this friend of Christ. And then, in the course of life, as a flower wilts, as life, hope, joy, purity are exhausted in us, the strength of the friend of the Lord is exhausted. And often, often we feel that, as if in a coffin, it lies somewhere in us - you can’t say “rest”, but a four-day one lies, terrible death the stricken one is the friend of the Lord, the one who died, the one whose tomb the sisters are afraid to approach, because he is already decomposing in his body.

Metropolitan Anthony of Surozh

Human friendship is, as it were, a natural icon, an image of a single, Divine friendship (just as human marriage exists in the image of Christ and the Church). God wanted to have in creation, in man, a friend, the incarnation of God fully realizes the possibility of this friendship. You are My friends if you do what I command you. I no longer call you slaves, for the slave does not know what his master is doing; but I called you friends, because I told you everything that I heard from my Father (). And man must love in Him his highest and only Friend, find himself in Him, for in Him is hidden the secret of every individual person. He, like the Son of Man, is humanity itself, truly human in man. In a certain sense, “salvation” from sin, that is, from oneself in an improper, empirical nature, is the affirmation of oneself by others in the Friend. The Lord took upon Himself the otherness, our sinful nature, up to death on the cross, in order, having abode in another, to reveal Himself to this other as a true Friend.

Archpriest Sergei Bulgakov

You are My friends if you do what I command you. I no longer call you slaves; for the servant does not know what his master is doing; but I called you friends, because I told you everything that I heard from my Father (). What does the word “friends” mean in the mouth of Jesus? Is it here we are talking about the harmony of souls, mutual disposition, human affection, about the imitation of ancient virtue? Of course not. These words are pronounced after the commandment of love: This is My commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you. There is no greater love than if someone lays down his life for his friends (). Friendship is proclaimed by Christ as the highest expression of love, for which it is worth laying down one's soul, giving one's life.

Priest Vladimir Zelinsky

There can be no more amazing joy than a meeting with God, friendship with Him and a desire - yes, to please Him with the fact that I try to live worthy of this friendship. But if I fail in this case, if something goes wrong, then this is not the end of everything. I can come and tell Him, “I'm sorry! That's what happened…” Even sometimes do not say “forgive”, but simply tell Him.

Metropolitan Anthony of Surozh

Let's feel Christ as our Friend! - suggested the old man. Indeed He is our Friend. This He Himself confirms when He says: You are My friends (). Let us look to Him and draw near to Him as a Friend.

Are we falling? Do we sin? Let us turn to Him with love and trust. Not with fear that He will punish us, but with that boldness that gives us the feeling of a friend in Him. Let's say to Him: "Lord, I did it, I fell, forgive me."

But at the same time we will feel that He loves us, that He receives us tenderly, with love and forgives us.

This is the relationship we have with God: friendship, trust. If something is “not right”, then you need to turn to Him. If we have sinned against Him, then go to Him, and not somehow find a way past Him...

Metropolitan Anthony of Surozh

The Old Testament Moses met with God on Mount Sinai without witnesses. In the New Testament, the communion of Jesus with God takes place in the presence of a person, in a circle of friends.

The meeting of John the Baptist with Jesus of Nazareth is sanctified by Epiphany. John becomes a witness of the appearance of the Holy Trinity.

Jesus goes to Mount Tabor with friends. The disciples become witnesses of the Transfiguration of Jesus and His Divine Communion.

In Gethsemane, Jesus asks his friends not to leave him. The disciples are shackled by sleep, but Jesus even wants to share the Prayer for the Chalice with friends.

D. Yu. Strotsev

The most important thing in all this work - adult baptism, confession, communion, Christian life - is that everything goes in the order of friendship with God and joy, joy that we are loved by Him and that we can answer Him with love and even this love. little to prove.

Metropolitan Anthony of Surozh

Suppose in your mind that the king of the earth sent to you one of his most insignificant servants, poorly dressed, in shabby rags, not on a horse, but on a bad donkey or even on foot, but who brought you a letter with the royal seal, written by the king himself , and in this letter the king proclaims you his brother and friend, and promises after a while to make you an accomplice with him in the reign, to crown your head with a royal crown and clothe you in royal robes - tell me, how would you react to this servant?

People consider it a great honor to have friendship and fellowship with an earthly king, but it is an incomparably great honor to have fellowship and friendship with God, who is the King of kings and the Lord of lords, and dwells in impregnable light ()!

Saint Tikhon of Zadonsk

Lack of faith always bears the stamp of our distrust of God: I will trust You this much, but I take insurance for something else, I believe, of course, that You can turn two loaves into food for everyone, but still I stock up just in case: what if You decide not work miracles today? In this sense, lack of faith bears the seal of distrust in God as a Person, a Being. It's not that you don't believe enough in some promise, promise, but in the One Who gave it, expressed it. And this is just as sinful as, say, if you have a friend and you believe him, while you believe, but you insure just in case; a friend has the right to say: no, this is not friendship.

Metropolitan Anthony of Surozh

What Peter really needed was a restoration of friendly, personal relationship with the Lord. After all, Peter did not deny Jesus as the Son of God, did not say that he was refusing to believe in Him as the Messiah (and they did not ask him to do this). No, but he offended the Lord as a friend of his friend, and therefore needed a new covenant of friendship.

Archpriest Pavel Florensky

And in the hour of trial, as soon as we see Christ, we immediately discard our intentions and want to be with Christ. But Christ is our friend, He is our brother, and He says:

"You are my friends. I do not want you to look at me differently, I do not want you to look at me like this: that I am God, that I am God the Word, that I am the hypostasis of the Holy Trinity. I want you to look at Me as yours, as your friend, embrace Me in your arms, feel Me in your soul - your Friend, Me - the source of life, as it really is.

Porfiry Kavsokalivit

Then for the first time You honored me, the dissolute one, to hear Your voice. And You so softly turned to me, amazed and amazed, and trembling, and in myself, as it were, thinking and saying: “What can this glory and greatness of this lordship mean? How and from where did I receive such blessings? “I am,” You said, “God made human to you. And since you have sought Me with all your soul, behold, from now on you will be My brother, My joint heir and My friend.”

People desire friendship - then they will love God more than themselves and each other as themselves, and God will love them as His children.

Saint Tikhon of Zadonsk

Blessed is he who loves Thee, a friend in Thee and an enemy for Thee. Only he does not lose anything dear to whom all are dear in the One Who cannot be lost.

Blessed Augustine Aurelius

If we talk about the image of Divine friendship, then it is best to understand the words from the book of Proverbs of Solomon: My joy is with the sons of men (). And the realization of this is very important for understanding what friendship is for a Christian. Here we read from the Apostle Paul about the properties, qualities of love in his First Epistle to the Corinthians, in chapter 13. And we feel that all this the apostle is talking about Divine love. But besides, we understand that there can be no other love - for a person too. Any small, imperfect love must either gradually ascend to Divine love, or fade away. The same can be said about friendship. God does not need a man, He does not need a man, and yet He Himself seeks human friendship. And she rejoices. Ideally, this is how our friendship with other people should be. To be friends with someone - not because we need this person, not because we need him, but disinterestedly, experiencing the joy of unity and communication with him. This, it seems to me, is one of those very important lessons of friendship that can be learned from the earthly life of the Savior, from the Holy Scriptures.

Hegumen Nektary (Morozov)

The Lord wants to see in us His children and friends, and not forced servants and slaves. He wants to own our heart and live in it - he wants a reciprocal hot love for Himself.

N. E. Pestov

This grace of the All-Holy Spirit alone makes a person begin to despise everything earthly and heavenly, present and future, joyful and mournful. She makes him a friend and a son of God and a god, as far as this is possible for a person. Oh, how majestic are the gifts of God!

Venerable Simeon the New Theologian

As for those who easily call themselves a friend of God... They will suddenly be very surprised if an invisible hand one day falls on their shoulder and a voice is heard: “What kind of friend are you? You are not my friend." And at the same time, a person who repents that every second Christ is, as it were, again crucified by his sins, crying about it, trying with all his might to change, can become a friend of God. Yes, he is a friend. This is how the antinomy turns out: in order to be a friend of God, one must not consider oneself as such.

Hegumen Nektary (Morozov)

“Children,” Christ addresses the apostles, for they are truly His children, but after all, Christ Himself is the Son. And this common, shared sonship with Him, with all callings and ministries, fits into the gospel word "friends." The inner volume of this word is enormous, it surpasses everything that has been said about friendship outside the gospel.

But what does "friends" mean, and what kind of friendship are the disciples of Christ endowed or endowed with? The Lord reveals it as a deed - washing one another's feet, serving, participating in the Paschal meal, that is, sharing joy, hospitality, openness, generosity and "kindness" of communication. The common holiday meal in the Bible is also a symbol or image of the Kingdom of God. Not slaves enter the Kingdom, but citizens chosen for it, and equality in it does not at all argue with hierarchy, just as royal dignity does not contradict the position of a servant. The gift of friendship that Christ bestows upon the disciples (and all generations of disciples after them) presupposes a common share in God's heritage, equality in the unity of deified human nature. The Fathers of the Church will later say: God became man by nature, so that man might become god by grace. Grace is also given in friendship, to which God calls a person, investing him with His presence, His trust, His love. Love saves, but also rules, is merciful, but also judges.

All the religions of the world require the submission of man to a known or unknown God. Christianity, without diminishing the insurmountable distance between us and the Lord, offers us His friendship.

Priest Vladimir Zelinsky

When people gather around one table, when they break bread together, they are on an equal footing: only equals eat at one table, only those who are equal to each other in hospitality and love eat at one table. It is very important. When Christ reclined at the Last Supper with His disciples, He said to them: I no longer call you slaves, because the slave does not know what his master is doing, I call you friends, because I told you everything (See:). Russian word“friend” means “other”: the other is not in the sense of “other”, not in the order of opposition, but on the contrary, in the order of recognition in the one you see, “the other yourself”. A friend is one whom you recognize as equal to yourself. And around the table of the Last Supper, Christ received the disciples as His friends, leveling them with love, among them - and a traitor. This relationship of Christ with Judas was shattered by Judas' departure, not by Christ's refusal. This is the first thing we must remember: the Lord, in inviting us to this feast, invites us as equals.

Metropolitan Anthony of Surozh

“If anyone hears My voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and dine with him, and he with Me (). Christ enters as a friend in order to reveal Himself in man, to share a meal with him, but he must be worthy of His royal, His Eucharistic friendship. This dignity expresses itself in the rejection of his sinful self, in the humility of our will for the sake of such friendship, in obedience to it.

Priest Vladimir Zelinsky

We are called to the Kingdom of God, that is, we are called to enter into a relationship with God of such intimacy, such mutual love to become His closest friends. But for this, of course, you need to find time for Him, you just need to find time to communicate with Him, just as happens with friends. We do not call a friend a person who sometimes, meeting us on the street, will say: “Oh, how glad I am to see you!” - and then it will never show up at our house, whether we have sorrow, whether we have joy. It's the same here. A person who says: “I am now the owner of the land” is in fact only a slave of this piece of land, the field into which he has taken root, and these roots do not allow him to move anywhere from the field.

Another person bought five pairs of oxen, he has a business, he has a calling, he must do something with these oxen. The third guest replies: “I just got married myself, I cannot come to your feast. How can I come to your joy when my heart is overflowing with my own? There is no place in my heart for your joy. If I come to your joy, I must forget mine for a moment. No, I won't do that!"

Isn't that what we do so often in one form or another? I want to say that our hearts are full of something and there is no place in it to share someone else's joy or someone else's grief. It's scary to think! - friendship with God.

Metropolitan Anthony of Surozh

O my soul, the time will come, you will leave everyone, and everyone will leave you. Friends will forget. You don't need wealth. Beauty will fade, there will be no strength, the body will dry up, and the soul will plunge into darkness. Who will lend you a hand in this darkness and loneliness? Only Christ the Lover of mankind, if you have loved Him in your life. He will lead you out of darkness into light, out of loneliness to the Heavenly Cathedral. Think about it day and night and strive for it. And may Christ, the King of love, help you. Amen.

Saint Nicholas of Serbia

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Augustine Aurelius, blessed (354-430) - Bishop of Hippo (Hippo), the most prominent Latin theologian, philosopher, one of the great Western teachers of the Church. Memorial Day - 29 June.

Anthony the Great, Saint (c. 251-356) - an early Christian ascetic and hermit, revered as the founder of hermit monasticism. He lived alone in the desert for about 70 years. Memorial Day - 30 January.

Anthony of Surozh, Metropolitan, in the world Andrei Borisovich Bloom (1914-2003) - Bishop of the Russian Orthodox Church, philosopher, preacher, author of numerous books and articles in different languages ​​about spiritual life and Orthodox spirituality, one of the most respected modern theologians.

Nikolaevich, archpriest (1871-1944) - Russian philosopher, theologian.

Barsanuphius the Great, venerable († c. 600), a Palestinian ascetic, labored in the monastery of Abba Serida in Palestine near the city of Gaza, spent 50 years in seclusion. The book "The Venerable Fathers' Guide to Spiritual Life in Answer to the Questions of the Disciples" was translated into Russian and published in the 19th century. the elders of Optina Hermitage. Memorial Day - 19 February.

Basil the Great, Saint (329 or 330-379) - Bishop of Caesarea Cappadocia, Father and Doctor of the Church. Days of Remembrance - January 14 and February 12 - in the Cathedral of the Three Ecumenical Teachers and Hierarchs.

Gregory the Theologian (Nazianzen), saint (between 325 and 330-390) - Archbishop of Constantinople, Father and Teacher of the Church. Days of Remembrance - February 7 and 12, in the Cathedral of the Three Ecumenical Teachers and Hierarchs.

Derzhavin Gavriil (Gavrila) Romanovich (1743-1816) - Russian poet and playwright, statesman.

Blessed (c. 400-474) - Bishop of Photiki. Author of theological and ascetic treatises. Despite the paucity of information about life and the paucity of his writings, he, as a spiritual writer and theologian, enjoyed considerable authority and influence.

Nikolaevich (b. 1976) - Candidate of Theology, Vice-Rector for Academic Affairs and teacher at the Nikolo-Ugresh Theological Seminary, author of many books on the meaning and meaning of the Orthodox faith.

Saint (c. 306-373) - theologian, poet, the most famous of the Syrian Church Fathers. Memorial Day - 10 February.

Zelinsky Vladimir Kornelievich, priest (born 1942). Author of books on Orthodoxy, translations of theological literature and many religious and philosophical articles in different languages. Lives in Brescia.

Or Eusebius Jerome, blessed, reverend (c. 347 - 419/20) - presbyter, biblical scholar, exegete, translator of Holy Scripture, one of the four great teachers of the Western Church. Memorial Day - 28 June.

John Chrysostom, saint (347-407) - Archbishop of Constantinople, theologian, one of the three Ecumenical saints and teachers (together with Saints Basil the Great and Gregory the Theologian). Compiled the rite of the Liturgy of the Byzantine Rite, which, according to the Rule, is performed on most of the days of the liturgical year in the Orthodox Church. Days of memory - February 12 and November 26.

The monk (c. 530-649) - Christian theologian, Byzantine philosopher, abbot of the Sinai monastery. For 40 years he carried the feat of silence, he received the nickname for his essay “Ladder” (“Ladder”), where in 30 chapters the degrees of spiritual ascent to perfection are presented. Days of memory - on the 4th week (Sunday) of Great Lent and April 12.

Reverend (7th century) - Christian ascetic, ascetic writer. The content of all his teachings is a variety of states of righteousness and sinfulness and ways of Christian correction and self-improvement. Memorial Day - 10 February.

Isaiah the Hermit, reverend († c. 370) - ascetic, ascetic of the Nitrian desert, church writer. The memory is celebrated in the Cathedral of All Saints on Saturday of Cheese Week.

Titus Flavius, presbyter (c. 150 - c. 217) - Greek Teacher of the Church, one of the prominent representatives of the Alexandrian theological school, who played a significant role in the assimilation of ancient philosophical heritage by Christianity.

Lewis Clive Staples (1898-1963) English and Irish writer, scholar and theologian. Known for his work on medieval literature and Christian apologetics, as well as fiction in the fantasy genre. One of the prominent representatives of the Oxford literary group "Inklings".

Reverend, in the world Mikhail Nikolaevich Ivanov (1788-1860) - the elder of Optina Hermitage, from 1836 - confessor, from 1839 - head of the skete. Every day he received a lot of people, conducted an extensive correspondence. Days of Remembrance - September 20 and October 24 at the Cathedral of the Optina Elders.

Maximus the Confessor, Saint (582-662) - an ascetic of piety and a defender of Orthodoxy, spoke out against the heresy of mono-thelitism; was the secretary of Emperor Heraclius; in 641 he entered the Chrysopolis monastery; in 656, after many tortures, he was sent into exile, where he died. Days of memory - February 3 and August 26.

Menshikov Mikhail Osipovich (1859-1918) - Russian thinker, publicist and public figure.

Nektary (Morozov), abbot (born 1972) - rector of the Church of the Holy Apostles Peter and Paul in Saratov, head of the diocesan information and publishing department. Chairman of the Board of the Orthodox military-patriotic club "Patriot" in Saratov. Graduate of the Faculty of Journalism of Moscow State University.

Nicholas of Serbia, saint, in the world Nikola Velimirovic (1880-1956) - Bishop of the Serbian Orthodox Church, Bishop of Ohrid and Zhichsky, a prominent theologian and religious philosopher. Days of memory - March 18, May 3.

Nikon (Vorobiev), abbot, in the world Nikolai Nikolaevich Vorobyov (1894-1963) - clergyman of the Russian Orthodox Church (since 1956 in the rank of abbot), spiritual writer. Known for his numerous letters to his spiritual children, most of which were published in the collection "Repentance Left to Us".

Nilus of Sinai, the Monk († 450) - one of the great Eastern, Byzantine ascetics and church writers of the 4th-5th centuries, a disciple of John Chrysostom; in 390 he went to the Sinai desert, where he lived for 60 years; author of ascetic instructions and other works. Memorial Day - 25 November.

(1848-1905) - writer, professor at the Kyiv Theological Academy in the department of moral theology.

In the world, Arseniy Eznepidis (1924-1994) is an elder and monk of Mount Athos, known for his spiritual teachings and ascetic life.

(1892-1982) - theologian, historian of the Orthodox Church, doctor of chemical sciences, professor.

Reverend (c. 340-450) - Egyptian ascetic, ascetic. With his two brothers Anubius and Paisius, he went to one of the Egyptian monasteries. He spent his time in strict fasting and prayerful deeds and reached such a height of virtues that he entered into complete dispassion. For many monks, he was a spiritual mentor. Died at the age of 110 years. Memorial Day - 9 September.

Platon, Metropolitan of Moscow, in the world Peter Georgievich Levshin (1737-1812) - an outstanding church figure, preacher, teacher, writer.

Porfiry Kavsokalivit (1906-1991) - one of the most revered elders of Mount Athos.

Simeon the New Theologian, venerable (946-1021), served at the court of the Byzantine emperors Basil and Constantine Porphyrogenitus, on the advice he went to St. Mamanta, where he became abbot; subsequently accepted the feat of silence; author of many ascetic instructions. The Monk Simeon created the doctrine of the new man, of the "deification of the flesh," with which he wanted to replace the doctrine of the "mortification of the flesh," for which he was called the New Theologian. Memorial Day - 25 March.

Strotsev Dmitry Yulievich (born 1963) - poet, publisher, employee of the Spiritual Heritage Foundation of Metropolitan Anthony of Surozh. Lives in Minsk.

Tikhon of Zadonsk, saint, in the world Timothy Savelyevich Sokolov, at the birth of Kirillov (1724-1783) - Bishop of Voronezh and Yelets, theologian, the largest Orthodox religious enlightener of the 18th century. Days of memory - 1 and 26 August.

Tikhon (Shevkunov), archimandrite, in the world Georgy Alexandrovich Shevkunov (born 1958) is the abbot of the Moscow Sretensky stauropegial monastery. Rector of the Sretensky Theological Seminary. Executive Secretary of the Patriarchal Council for Culture. Church writer, screenwriter.

Saint, in the world Georgy Vasilyevich Govorov (1815-1894) - from 1859 Bishop of Tambov, from 1863 - Vladimir; in 1866 he was appointed rector of the Vyshenskaya hermitage, but in the same year he went into seclusion, where he stayed for 28 years. The author of interpretations of the Holy Scriptures, translated into Russian "Philokalia", conducted extensive correspondence with spiritual children. Days of memory - January 23 and June 29.

Alexandrovich, archpriest (1882-1937) - Russian Orthodox priest, theologian, philosopher, scientist, poet.

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe (1749-1832) - German poet, statesman, thinker and naturalist.
Johann Peter Eckermann (1792-1854) - German writer and poet. Known for his studies of the work of J. W. Goethe, whose friend and secretary he was.
Gottfried Wilhelm Leibniz (1646-1716) - German philosopher, logician, mathematician, mechanic, physicist, lawyer, historian, diplomat, inventor and linguist.
Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803-1882) - American essayist, poet, philosopher, pastor, public figure; one of the most prominent thinkers and writers of the United States.
Theognid (Theognid) from Megara (VI century BC) - Greek poet, lyricist.
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